Is there hope for us?

Wtf? There are 6 billion people in this world. Half of them are male. He can't expect you to just give up speaking to other men. As long as you're not flirting with them or actually cheating on him, you've done nothing wrong whatsoever. Never think you've done wrong for giving out your number to someone you had no intention of hooking up with.

He's probably hurt, but the problem is, it's his insecurity hurting him. If he wants to know what you're doing at all times, he probably still wants you, but what is he gonna do? The same thing over again. If he takes you back, he'll do the same thing over again and you'll start feeling bad for having to avoid all guys. Nobody should have to be with someone that won't trust them. Sorry but I really think you gotta let it go.

Keep busy like you said, do community service and that. Make lists of things you can do for self-improvement - kick a bad habit or something. If you can't think of anything, just give yourself a spa weekend or something. Have a really long bath and give yourself every beauty treatment you can think of and just feel amazing. Promise yourself you won't call him, at least not for x days (say 3, by the time day 3 comes around you'll be more used to not talking to him). Maybe he'll come back to you and realise his mistake. This has happened to me - my ex was controlling and broke up with me, I begged for him back, and I had to practically lock myself in my room with lots of projects and forbid myself to call him for him to realise what he'd done. But even when we tried to be friends, he was STILL controlling. Don't take him back, please hun.

And for the record, you're not a wildcard.

Hi dear,

Live a life which you like. I'm not going to say leave him I know how hard it is so don't worry I have come across the same case several times but 80% resolved and others did not.

Here is your answer.

1. There are guys who just need girls for sex. If you want to identify them jus check whom they are moving with and what a sort of relationship they have etc. but never ever let your guy know that you are doing this, even though it is bad its your life you have to fight for it so trust god and pray to him. He will show whether he is correct or not.. If the answer for your hunt on his activities are clear that he is perfect and not having any friendship as xxx then his love is true.

2. Speaking from his side. See generally there are some guys want us to show that you love more than anyone and you will do more than any one. so in such cases you have to give up everything. leave this job search for a job where there are only girls. forget the number. get a new one and give only the persons which he says k you give to him. speak as if you are irritated because of the flirting guys and bad relationships. Avoid sex and say in a polite manner ond lovable manner that you are for him.

3. one word answer is get rid of the things first which he doesn like. express your love more. if you don't know try to pretend atleast.

All the above matches only if your guy is true to you.

never ever say you contact me or any guys at any point.

get back if this works out.

God is with you.

Cheers,

Neo.

Tenting you--whats that never heard that one but I gotta use that. Ok first of all this guy his some real low self esteem issues. forget the number thing that you never should have done that(that does not matter)...thats no big deal he's just using that as a cop out as a reason to get mad at you. This guy may be seriously bi-polar because he doesn't wanna get back with you but he calls you all the time and wants to know your whereabouts like you are dating and he controls you. he is very controlling and jealous and insecure for sure. I mean you went to great lenths to prove yourself quitting a job and sending a poem to a guy-most guys would melt if a girl they really loved did that. you are being to easy. I mean you quit your job which you should have never done. he's manipulating you and its working. I mean your job you need to make money for a living. a guy respects a girl more who lives her life and does what she has to do and does not comply like the way you are doing and self sacraficing-trust me. If you wind up getting back with him and get married this is what hell be like forever. having your every move watched and probably have surveillance on you.

u already proved ur sorry and he does not appreciat it. yet he still has sex with you-big mistake on ur part. he figures he has a hold on you and is playing head games with u. I don't know how you met this guy you love or what you love about him--but if a girl demands a guy treat her with respect nicely and make sure he does then he will---if you keep playing into these mind games he's playing(and he is winning) then hell do this for a long time.

If I were you I would kick this D bag to the curb and find a guy whos not so jealous and inseucre

RUN NOW, yes you did a bad thing making a date with another man. Whatever your intentions that is what you did, that said ... your boyfriend is a control freak. He wants to control you and has shown you he can by using your body, breaking your spirit and making you feel bad for going to church and volunteering! GET AWAY!

He's been inconsistent with his calling you and wanting to see you, yet he constantly talks like he doesn't trust you anymore. The fact that he keeps calling you should tell you that he stil like/loves you. Some guys can forgive and forget and understand situations like that, while other can't! So far he seems to be one of those guys that can't! Your best move is to let him do his thing as you stop pursuing him. If he truly loves you he'll change his tune and eventually start trusting you amd coming after you again. That'll give you time to explain more fully why you gave your number out. We all make mistakes of one sort or another. That's the human part of us... we all do it. Just relax and the only thing important that you can do now is to just let him know you still love him and would like getting back together. The rest is up to him. If he doesn't come forward and start acting like he used to when things were going great, then eventually you will have to forget about him and look for some guy that has more trust in you. You don't need to dump him because he already broke up with you. You also don't owe him explanations about everything you're doing either and just feeding his jealousy constantly. Just tell him you're sorry ... and what I told you above.

Honestly, he shouldnt of dumped you just like that but you sound like a bit of a wild card. BUT what you did with the quit the job thing was a good step in showing him that you want him back. Hopefully he forgives you and takes you back.

after that happened to me with my ex something just shuts off in your mind about the person. you don't trust them or what to be in a relationship but its nice to fall back on some one. he'll probably always see you the same.
youll find some one better :)

He seems have trust issues. It may be some past experience or just his view of how women are. It may be because of some experience his friends had.

First thing you need to do is to stop trying to prove to him that you are innocent. It is always futile to prove a suspicion wrong.

The only way to react to this is with anger (which is what you should be feeling since you are being wrongly accused). Set up a meeting with him and give him a piece of your mind when he meets you.

The guy has major trust and jealousy issues. I'm assuming you knew this BEFORE he went through your phone. It seems pretty extreme and I doubt it developed over night. He shouldn't have been going through your phone without you knowing. If you knew he had these jealous tendencies then a solution would have been to mention your networking efforts to him to put him at ease. I'm not saying you did anything wrong, but it does look bad if he finds them not knowing. Either way he overreacted. If you HONESTLY gave out your number just for networking purposes that's something he should accept.

I would cut it loose and tell him you can't be with him while he's acting this way. It's not healthy and it will be a constant problem. Hopefully he'll take that as a sign to work on his issues and maybe you can be together again some day if you both want to try again.

1) He violated your trust and personal space and property by sneaking through your phone.
2) He broke up with you over something easily explainable.
3) You broke up and the guy is remaining posessive over you.

It's not wrong to share your number for networking purposes. Whether you share your number with guys or girls isn't his concern if you explain things rationally.

The guy seems like a bit of a hothead wanker. You should drop him and move on to someone more understanding of who you are and want to be.

Hun you sound like a sweet girl and shouldn't be taken for granted by this. If he didn't trust you and broke up with you over his own insecurities, you should forget about him. You are even trying to repent and get him back, which most women wouldn't do. You seem like a fighter through and through and very faithful. But if I were you I would give him some space and see what happens but that's only because you want to be with him. Other wise I am going to be mean, but sometimes love isn;t enough if he can;t see you for who you really are.

He is overreacting, but that's no way to treat you. At this point, he doesn't trust you. But he still knows he can manipulate your feelings to get sex, and that's not a good thing to do to someone who cares about you. I would just take a break for now. Don't just have sex with him (I know that's easier said than done). If he is serious about wanting to get back with you, let him prove it by working on your relationship beyond the physical.

Honestly, this guys acting like a child he basically isn't even all that mad it seems.First he says that he's mad and breaks up with you but then still talks to you and interacts with you,as well as having sex.Like he doesn't know what he wants. Try finding out more about yourself before you get back together with this guy, you deserve much much much better.Do what your doing now(which is a great idea by the way) go to church ,volunteer, discover yourself spiritually and that will help you to figure out what YOU want . This guy is definetely just acting up and taking it wayyyy to far and he's being so damn extra! I know you love him, and its hard, but take one day at a time, and I know you'll make it through. God bless you hun :)

i think he should of been able to tell how much you realy love him and he shouldnt have dumped you just like that but I think uve been lucky in a way that he dumped you when he did because you sound like you could do so much better than tht! ino how hard it is to get over some1 you love because I'm currently going through that right now because I still love my ex who broke up with me a month ago after going out for 3 years and it rly hurts because people keep telling me not to talk to him because he keeps hurting me and like the other day he decided to tell me about these 2 girls he liked and how he's only single because he's skint (wtf lol) nyway ye even tho he still hurts me ino how hard it is to not talk to him and get on with ur life but ur doing the right thing by keeping busy and 1 day u'll realise what a lucky escape you had! and u'll find some guy who actualy deserves you and treats you much nicer and trusts you :) and I would stop answering his calls even if you want to! he sounds like he's still controling you like ur still his but ur a free person you can do what you like and he shouldnt be saying nasty stuff to u, you dnt deserve him acusing you off all tht stuff when ur going to church! just stay strong and even if ur not over him dnt show him tht try show him as best as you can tht you dnt care what he thinks now and that ur getting on with ur life since he did dump you and wouldn't take you bk that's his fault not urs and there's nothing else to do but move on and enjoy life with out him and just show him how you can do that and he'll start to realise how stupid he was!

hmm why don't you guys talk it out? and tell him not to check up on you like ten times a day or whatever because that' snot healthy. obviously he's into you but he is insecure. you still love him, it doesn't sound like it's been long so I think there is hope that you two can talk it out

If you did that with honest intentions (which hey, sometimes you have to get creative with money and jobs), there's nothing more you can do than apologize and try to mend the relationship. The rest was in his hands. Sounds like he's a bit immature. I'm sure his feelings are hurt, but you OBVIOUSLY tried to show him how much that relationship meant to you. I mean, a new number AND job. Geez.

Just remember, just because we love somebody doesn't mean that theyr'e the best fit for us. Maybe this will give you an opportunity to find a guy who is a bit more understanding and trusting.

Best of luck!

You did nothing wrong. He should have been ok with you giving out your number to network. RED FLAG! RED FLAG! The jealousy thing and him calling asking what you are doing and where you are is all about CONTROL. And, he treated you like crap by leaving you after sex because he could! You need to think better of yourself. Love is not jealous or controlling. These guys usually are the ones who abuse women down the road. I had an ex just like this guy. He had to know where I was 24/7 and then he started telling me what clothes to wear, who I could hang out with, etc. He would accuse me of trying to look attractive to other guys and didn't want me to cut my hair or wear makeup. This guy I was with was a "sociopath." Jealousy and control are only 2 of the signs. Maybe you should go to www.lovefraud.com and see if he has more traits. Run away! Run away! All he will do is take away your freedom and self esteem. Let's talk about God. God did you a huge favor by taking this person out of your life.