What should I do about my ex?

This is not a good situation for you to be in.

Right now you are spending a lot of time around him, so that is preventing you from moving on.

He might be a great guy to hang out with, but remember why you broke up. What makes you think that your problem is fixed? Guys who check out other girls and who spend a lot of time looking at porn usually don't change. So this will very likely still be a problem if you get back together.

My guess is that he enjoys being with you. Either he has moved on and just wants to be friends (unlikely if he is flirting with you) or he wants to get back together but feels apprehensive because of the problems you had. Maybe he is trying to get you to say that his porn habit doesn't bother you?

My advice is, problems to do with bad habits like infidelity and porn and drinking usually don't go away. People rarely change these habits. In my experience, it is a bad idea for girls to stay in relationships where these habits are a problem. Even if you try not to complain about his porn/checking out other girls habit, it will still bother you and as you said, you will feel inadequate. I think you should move on. Step back from this guy otherwise you won't be able to.

well first you should not get mad for him looking at porn.. that's silly you should not be arguing for dumb stuff.. that was my mistake with my ex and I regret it .. you should have showed him you loved him instead.. don't get jealous.. be chill about things.. and once he loses you he will be want to be back with you because you we so chill loving and sweet and that's all a guy wants is a girl be their for them ..just don't let him take you for granted... but now you should cut off friendship and make him realize that he wants to be with you..

Well first off porn is an addiction like smoking, so it could just be something to fill his time well you were not around. If you were openly allowing sex then he could just be a player and realized that he wants variety. Most guys will look at other girls out of habit(because they enjoy it) or to just tease you, I personally know that if I am checking out other girls then the relationship is going to suffer and we will brake up (I think big breasts are nasty.) Um I think he is just a player or he feels that you are not excepting him for who he is. So if the porn is an issue then just go after someone else it is a big world.

You need to relax and get over your porn issues, nothing wrong with that at all, get over it and enjoy it together...its just people making out as nature intended...hardly a reason to break up with someone, of course he's checking out chicks, same way you are still being asked out by guys in clubs...its life. Get over the ego and relax and all will be well.

Sounds like you're insecure. If you can accept him checking out other girls and watching porn he's not for you. Doesn't sound like many guys would be for you actually.

If you hook back up with him you'll fight again. Sounds like you were starting all the fights anyway.

he most likely is playing with your mind and if this is a guy you don't want, then don't go after him . honestly, it sounds like too much work. if I like a guy and I tol dhim, stop looking at a porn, and he doesnt', well I'D dump HIM not the other way around. this is crap he woul dbe the one to dump you, ..find a better bf

If this is purely hurting you, I'd say stop hanging out until your feelings go away. I think, though, the reason he says he can't is because he remembers how overly defensive you were over his watching porn. I think he probably felt you took away a piece of his independence when you got offended and yelled at him for it. In his thought process he probably feels you can't do this as a friend and he can still enjoy your company. The best thing you can do now? When your hanging out, get to a place where you are alone and he can't 'run away'. Explain how you've been feeling and ask where he stands. Tell him you understand you can't be together again (as he says) but that you'd like to know how he feels for you now, and how he felt when you where in a relationship. I think this will give you the most peace of mind.

Ask him why he can't...

Hi. Sounds like you both want different things. He's getting the pleasure of hanging around with you but your needs aren't being fulfilled because you want a boyfriend. I wouldn't hang out with him anymore. I agree with Annette83's post. Habits don't change. He'll still look at porn.. . and other women too.