Okay, so basically we dated for a few days before he left for the military. Asked me to be his girlfriend. So I complied. I wrote him everyday. He started doing really weird things- like getting on a girls back he had met two hours previous and taking a picture- a month later he uploaded it, when he was still in basic. I saw it and got upset. My mom said I couldn't go to his graduation- nor did I really feel like being the butt of the joke, if he had done something with her and showed up after spending 700$ to get there. Later, he made promises never to talk to her again. Time went on and eventually I went to see him. When I came back some of his friends [that are girls] started saying really inappropriate things- and he would dismiss it and stick up for them when I got mad. Then I found out he was talking to the girl he promised not to. A LOT. I broke up with him. Then he came back town 5 days later, as planned, and we got back together. Two weeks later he broke up with me. He said a month ago because he couldn't keep hurting me, but a week ago it was because I drew the line on these so called "friends."
In June he flew me across the country to work it out. It was cut short and I went home- we didn't get back together. About 3 months ago he started saying he'd try harder- he came back a month ago and I naively did some things I am not proud of. He then left to his hometown, knowing I couldn't trust him, and refused to call me. When he got back to his military base he called me and cried and made apologies saying we couldn't work, he wanted to be friends.
I said no and said I would only talk to him. Soon he began to be a jerk again. Two weeks ago he basically told me to never speak to him. My mother then put me in the mental hospital, where they dismissed me saying I needed counseling for an abusive boyfriend.
NOW he won't talk to me claiming he hasn't gotten over me. He said, when I last called him that I was a "bitch" for calling because he had almost forgotten about me. This was a week ago. =/
Here's where I am stuck. Before all the crap, for four months of our relationship he was my best friend. ONLY person I ever would have considered spending my life with. He had problems with an ex- I don't know how to explain it, but I have a feeling this is why he was such a jerk.
I don't want to make excuses for him. I don't want to be with him until he gets his crap done- and even then I am not sure. I have tried being with other people- doesn't work. I don't care about them. I haven't talked to him in a week. I don't know what to do. Move on? Move on and keep my heart there and if he does come around- keep it slow? I don't know.
His girl best friend, whom I love always tells me I was the prettiest/best girl for him. His parents consider me part of the family. My friends dislike him.
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Leave because he can't make you happy. This will continue and probably gets worse, why? Just read again on what you just wrote here. It's so obvious that he's not treating you well.
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