I went out with a girl for a long time at work and I thought it was special to me,we are both adults. Anyway by chance I found out she was seeing someone else at work. I was devastated. I walked away saying listen I respect you so I respect your choices, you deserve love from whoever you choose, best of luck with it. At the time I didn’t know who she was seeing but of course curiosity took over and I fund out, the guy is know for being a player arrogant etc I sure you all know the type, the ones whose personalities suits his requirements from , if he doesn’t want anything from you he won’t be nice to you etc.I knew loads about him but could never say. The months followed and my ex went from being warm to me to cold playing games trying to get my attention all sorts but I never knew what she really wanted. I was certain she wanted to know I still liked her, but I decided I could o longer show this. Time went on I was still hurting as much as I tried to put it behind me, for some reason she kept doing little things to remind me she was still there in an indirect way, which I guess I sort of liked!. Any way I started to work with a new girl and we got on really well, she is attractive and a lot younger than my ex, but I decided I would keep it as a friendship (already made that mistake) and we became the best of friends, but you could see my ex was getting jealous dirty looks at my new friend hot cold communication with her. Again I couldn’t understand why. Did she not have someone new ? Anyway I got promoted I had the choice to stay at the same offices or move, I decided enough I have to end this “thing”. I decided to move offices, rightly or wrongly I emailed my ex (because I wanted to say what I wanted to say without being distracted) I told her I have no regrets and I’m not afraid to say I wanted her heart and sometimes things don’t work out which I understand, but I don’t understand why she was so hot and cold with me. I regret in the end we couldn’t find a friendship gain, but please stay safe and beautiful. I added please don’t respond or wish me well and I wish you love and happiness always. God bless. I left. Within weeks of me leaving, it appears or there is an indication she has gone into depression and there is further indication she has now fallen out with the other guy (whether it was still on or not was never known or asked). Since leaving I have kept in touch with the new girl I worked with regular as she was a good friend. The latest thing is the ex has been asked to do some different work for a few weeks and she has decided to sit alongside my new friend !? When they were always so hot and cold, my new friend says she doesn’t have to sit with her she can work else where! Can anyone suggest a view on all this odd behavior please ?
I'm sorry, the ex has really played some games with you! She should have never gone with the player and should have stayed with a nice guy like you. Or at least been open enough to come out and say she made a mistake and wanted you back - which is what all her strange behavior is really saying. She wanted your attention but didn't know how to tell you verbally. Plus you didn't respond much to her non-verbal attempts at getting your attention which frustrated her.
As far as the situation with the new girl, it sounds a bit like "keep your enemies close" to me. Any time you make a new friend and a girlfriend, wife or ex suddenly becomes best buds with her or starts inviting her to everything, she's showing signs of posession and making sure she keeps an eye on you, the new friend and the situation. (Unless they were truly friends before.) It's pretty manipulative and hints at insecurity.
Now that you're gone your ex has done her research and discovered this girl is in touch with you so she's buddied up to her quick to ensure the friend mentions it to you and reminds you she's still there. Sounds like she has feelings for you but wow, her games are really awful!
If you still have feelings for the ex you might consider calling her to go out to lunch and then telling her that you did have feelings but her behavior has turned you off. Ask her if she could be more honest with you so that you could try dating exclusively. (Word it however you would like of course!)
If you like the sweet girl that you're just friends with, write the ex off immediately and refuse to be any more than cordial to her on the rare chance you see her. If your friend mentions her in an e-mail say things like "I'd much rather hear about you. I find you very interesting" and make it obvious where your interests lie.
This is just my opinion but the ex deserves the player and you deserve the sweet girl that is taking it nice and slow with you. :) Perhaps consider rewarding her efforts and putting up with all the games the ex is playing with her by asking her out on a date? That is if you're willng to date someone within your company again. Good luck!
"I walked away saying listen I respect you so I respect your choices, you deserve love from whoever you choose, best of luck with it."
The mark of a true gentleman, I salute you. No sense crying over spilled milk. you know you can't control another human being but you are not going to lose your self respect either. Good Guy!
Your ex knows she f***ed up bigtime and I am sure she saw the true nature of her new guy "the player". Welp, she is an adult and she made an adult decision, now she must deal with it as an adult...unfortunatly for her..she is now acting like a child. Better for you bro and better for the future lady that walks into your life next. If your ex didn't mess up, the new ladiy wouldn't have stood a chance with you.
Congradulations to you and your future lady.
and a good life lesson for your ex, I bet she isn't going to do that again. we all have to grow up sometime...even if it's in our 30's to 40's.
She's a chick. As soon as there's competition she gets interested again. Ignore her, but I'd totally root the younger one if you have no problems doing that.
What's with this office? Not enough work to stop people from making da love?
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