I'd like some suggestions of how I can solve a kind of 'love triangle' that I've became a part of.
I have fallen for a friend of mine who is in a relationship with a guy who treats her badly; she knows it, I know it, and her friends know it. She feels the same way about me too; she's told me so.
We've met up a couple of times and we've discussed things. She wants to be with me I want to be with her and she wants out of her current relationship. She has spoken with him three times now (or at least she has said she has but, judging by her emotions, she is being truthful) and told him she is breaking up with him but he doesn't listen and won't accept her decision.
I can see she's upset about the situation and I have the dilemma that I want to be with her but don't want to pressure her. She obviously needs her space and time to sort out this other guy but at the same time I want to be there for her to help her.
How can I do that without pressuring her? I really just want her to be happy in herself.
I don't see what the problem is. If you and this girl are already seeing each other then just be together. Obviously this other guy doesn't care enough to provoke you. Tell the girl you are after to just leave the relationship if she's unhappy with her current boyfriend. Eventually the boyfriend is going to see you as a threat so when that happens stand up to the guy and say, "Look this girl isn't your property, if it's her choice to leave you for me then it's her choice. " Chivalry attracts women.
Yes, we're meeting up but we're not 'together'. She won't cheat on him and I'm not going to let her. The problem is that I can't convince her to leave him even though the only reason she still with him is because she feels so much empathy for me and doesn't want to hurt him. I try to say that she has to do it because she's not happy but I don't want to lean to heavily on her - she's no my property and I can't tell her what to do. - 7 months ago
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Okay, I see what's going on now. It's the girl that is the problem. Try this go to a dating website and get a girl to go out with you. Then plan to go on a date some where this girl you like will be. Then after she sees you with another woman she'll be in your shoes looking at what you are seeing when this girl you like and her boyfriend are together. If she later asks you what's going on then simply say, "Either leave your boyfriend or I continue seeing other people. " This will get her thinking. - 7 months ago
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 7 months ago
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