Me and my girl were together for almost 3 years and lived together for 1 of those. Things were going pretty good but then she said wen she was out she messed up and kissed a guy. I got off the phone 2 think about what 2 do. I text her saying I appreciate her honesty. She text back saying so sorry and ill b here if you wanna make up a few hours later I called and 2 come over. She said ok but a little while later she calls and said she didn't think we should b together. We argued a bit until I just drove over 2 her house. Finally I got mad and said fine I don't want this anymore and started 2 take her home. She said no lets just go 2 your house. We seemed 2 work it out we watched a movie had good sex and she spent the night. Only 2 find out she was going hang out with that guy the next day, I obviously went nuts and she said I can't be with you. Also keep in mind that 90% of the relationship she always seemed 2 love me more always wanting 2 b around me and calling me 25 times a day. So I decided 2 not call her. 3 days later she text me with what are you doing , I didn't reply. Next she text me with all I ever wanted was to marry you and b with you forever if you can do that than so can I no question, you have no idea how much I love you its up 2 you just say the words. Wow I was shocked, I didn't wanna just give in so I replied with, what makes you think its that easy and you don't even have spine to say that on the phone. Sure enough she called immediately, and we talked and decided 2 work it out. Next day we are supposed 2 meet up and I find out she went to work out with that other guy who is by the way is still in school lives with parents and is pretty ugly so girls have told me. So I'm like what the f. Long story short we went back and fourth with this kinda thing for weeks. Still saying I love you 2 each other and she would say I know we will end up together I just need time alone (cause this guy she swears is only a friend ,i don't bye it) it started on march 1 and here I am know April 19, I have cut off contact (agony) and she has tried 2 call few times but on Thurs. Apr 17 she called 3 times the last being at 12 30 at night ,left msg in crying voice saying she couldn't sleep and just wanted hear my voice said call me back IF YOU WANT and then said I love you in same teary voice. I didn't answerer any of calls but now I'm second guessing myself. But the last week I have made big strides in getting over it even though I still love her and she says she still loves me. She hasn't called back and its Monday. As much as I was trying not 2 see or talk 2 her it made me feel better that she needed me. Not sure what to make of any of this if I should keep moving on or what, we were very close is it possible to be happy again with her or has to much happened? any advice or input will help. I def pushed her away with I'll do this and the lets please work this out I even cried in front of her even though I thought we were close enough to express ourself and not have 2 play the GAME?
I agree. If you still want her, don't cut off contact. But keep yourself just slightly out of reach. It always works for me. I start to panic when I see my guy uninterested that I try my best to do everything to have his attention. Don't answer her calls once in awhile. Act very carefree but still caring. Don't let her know everything about what your doing. Keep things vague. She ain't your girl, so play the game. Single life is fun. Enjoy being chased! Become an alpha male and believe that girls are nothing, she'll come around and want to keep you.
This girl is definitely playing you! I have done this before. I would go back to the old faithful (that being you) when it's not going great with the new guy. It doesn't necessarily mean that their fighting, but she may not be getting the attention or reaction that she wants and knows that if she goes to you that you will satisfy it. All in all, I think she's using you to feed her ego when the other guy hasn't fed it right. Also sometimes with the new guy, the relationship is too shallow to be able to express loving feelings so she expresses it to you instead.
And don't buy the "we're only friends" type business. If she really wants to be with you and loves you, then she wouldn't be friends with the guy knowing that it makes you feel uncomfortable and upset. Its up to you to stay with her or move on. I would just move on. Girls are easy to get.
PS. Kissing isn't a big deal. With us girls, its if he wins our heart. Girls are more emotional beings than physical beings whereas guys are the other way around. That's why you find girls eventually being able to forgive their cheating boyfriends because he just had sex with her. He ain't in love with her. Right?
Well I would be together if she would. Although I wouldn't right now. Both of us would just b question masters and it would fall apart. I still love her and she loves me but I haven't been myself lately(because of this) I do believe we could b together later but I don't know if I should cut off contact because I don't want her to get over me or think I moved on and give up. She did call me today and was a little upset saying work sucked and she misses me all the time. I was upbeat and care free - 4 months ago
I personally think you should go find a new girl. Even if you marry her you would not be happy , and the relation would not last long. Trust me. I am an expert on this!
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