Ok this is the story, me and my girl were working out perfectly for like the longest time. Then she calls me up and says that were at 2 points in our life, she wants to party have fun, and I want to settle down. Now I don't think I ready to settle down but anyway she continued to say that if we continued to date then if she goes out and parties she might not be faithful and so she doesn't want to be known as a cheater. So she broke it off. She says nothing will change and she still loves me with all her heart. But my question is, how do I get her back? She seems so unsure about her decision and now she is sad all the time. My friends keep saying stuff like the old sayings "if you love something set it free and if it doesn't come back it was never meant to be". I totally understand what they mean but something just feels different. With every other girlfriend after like 3 or 4 days I'm slowly getting over her. But I still feel as bad as I did when she told me. And what's weird is I get so angry when I think of her moving on. I just would like some advice, has this happened to anyone else? And if so can you help me though this? Maybe even helping in getting her back? I just need some guidance.
She left YOU, it is her job to come back. If she really wanted to come back she would tell you. Just make sure she knows you still care about her and are "there" if she wants to talk to you, so she gets the hint that the door is still open. But honestly though, that whole, "If I go out and party I will cheat on you" thing is really lame. How could you possibly trust someone who can't trust herself out with some people for a drink? She doesn't sound like she deserves you or knows what she has.
Yea but the thing is I love her. How can I just stand on the sidelines when she comes to me one day saying "oh I'm totally in love" I think I'm like Jealous or something of what she could have. - 7 months ago
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If she is coming to you and telling you she loves someone else then she is either an idiot because she knows that would hurt you, or she is TRYING to make you jealous. Either way, again, she is not good enough for you. Leave her be and move on. Yeah so, maybe she has some qualities that make her a deeper love than the other girls, that's why you are having a harder time letting go. But obviously, you have to, and you WILL get over it. Trust me, I've just gone through EXACTLY the same thing as you. - 7 months ago
Ok. Let me tell you this. Let her do her thing. She's already giving you a warning that she wants to go out and date other guys. Do you really want to be with her and all of a sudden she cheats on you? She's doing you a favor by breaking up with you first. And that is so that the next time she is ready to settle down, your there. And you have nothing to hold against her. You guys are young. We're all young. I feel like you should date around too. I mean, what are you doing? Dating your wife? You have your whole life to be married. People are living longer, having babies at a later age, getting married later too. I mean, go out and date also. She loves you, I don't doubt that but she's probably wants to party so she can get it out of her system before she settles, and also taste the other colors of the rainbow so she knows if your the one or not.
In dating you learn a lot about yourself and what kind of guy/girl suits you. She's probably trying to make sure if your the guy for her. You can't blame her. The worst thing that could happen is you getting married to her and 5-10 years later she breaks up with you because she missed out on partying and wants to see how the party life is like. Be understanding. A good boyfriend will let her do what she has to do, then do his own thing, and if she comes around. Have open arms for her.
Chin up, guy. It happens to the best of us. She has already moved on and chances are she already has another guy. One day she'll regret this, but by then you'll have women throwing themselves at you. The best advice that I can give you is to try not to think about her. Do things that you liked to do when you were a kid. Besides, you've reached the point of no return: do you honestly think about settling down with a girl that would break it off with you because she believes that "if she goes out and parties she might not be faithful". NEXT!
I know your right dude but for some reason why can't I step aside? I have been at this point in my life like many times before and I could always move on. But why can't I move on this time? Why can't I let her go? - 7 months ago
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When: 7 months ago
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