When my boyfriend and I got together, we started to become a long distance relationship due to college. This was very difficult and there was much bickering for a while, and after some talk, we both agreed that we were going to try to make things work out despite the distance and plan for the future (living together) The arguing and bickering came to an immediate halt, and both of us started to have the money to visit each other once a month. The relationship was pretty incredible despite the distance, we played video games together, talked on the phone all the time, spent a lot of time doing the same activities to make up for the distance, and it worked. He even said that the relationship was fun and pretty incredible. So the time finally came that we could see each other routinely, so I visit, and things were absolutely wonderful. Before I left, we discussed the next time we could see each other, how we had such a great time, and he couldn't wait to see me again. At the airport we held each other, said 'I love yous', I cried, and his eyes were red and puffy, I went home depressed, but very happy that I would be able to see him again in may. and then when I got home he broke up with me.
He told me that his feelings started to change for me half way through the trip and he didn't love me like how I loved him. He said that he was frustrated at how I was jet-lagged and he felt as if he had to force me to do anything because I wanted to sleep. He also said that he was frustrated at how when I was leaving, when I started bawling I said that "I was afraid my crying was making a scene and he wouldn't want to see me again. "
He said that he was just 'acting' so there wouldn't be any issues when I visited, because it wasn't the time or place.
I told him I didn't believe him, and asked him if while we were at the airport holding each other and saying nice things, if that actually meant anything to him and if it was actually real. And he said it was, that it really meant something.
I brought up other things that occurred while I was there, and questioned the meaning, then he said those meant something too. Then he grew quiet and said goodbye.
I'm confused at how wonderful things were and the quick ending. I even said to him that it felt like everything was nearly perfect, and the breakup seemed so out of the blue. And he said it really is out of the blue.
I had a similar situation just happen to me also... I would like to know how you can go from being great to not knowing or understand what went wrong? although they guy I have been dating just said he needs time.
did you ever think that it scared him a little you would be seeing him more regularly... because I think that may be some part to why my boyfriend is doing this.
Girl don't wonder what happened, I know your hurting, but he did this. It's his loss. It was his choice, do not waste the energy it takes to think, wondering why he decided to bail out, focus on you. Count your blessings, and I know you have many, and remember when God made him he made so MANY more of them, they are all over the place!. Crying helps, praying helps, but whatever you do if you can hold off on jumping into another relationship do it! Give it at least 6 mos, give yourself time to focus on what's important, YOU, and your studies. Whatever happened with him isn't important, you are. Guys have a way of taking up a lot of space in our heads, that we forget what we should really be thinking about, and they are not worth the space, especially when they dump you. You'll be alright girl, Focus. Good Luck.
It was to nice and he doesn't want to move forward. Do not take it personally. He has issues that he isn't wanting to share. Not everyone falls in love and stays together. Life changes people change and so does long distant relationships. He wants his freedom and does not want to be committed to anyone right now. Let him go there is someone out there for you and if you were happy with him guess what you will discover someone else that will enhance your own happiness. Happiness comes from inside yourself not from others.
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