Why is my ex boyfriend playing telephone through our friends?

He wants to look like some kind of hero or be the "good guy". He is prob looking for you friends to say to her "awe...he's sweet". He likely thinks that will be enough to fuel some kind of fire or desire that will lead you back to him. My gut tells me this is the type of guy who will keep stalking you and trying to be around you in innocent ways hoping you get back with him.

Overanalyze much? It sounds like he just wants to reach out and be able to talk to you again. He picks up that ur mad at him so he went through a friend first and made up a lame reason to cotact you. He may just want to be friends or maybe more but it's hard to tell without knowing more.

He's probably had a few regrets finishing the relationship now he's seeing you occasionally. It is his way of trying to get back into your life again by the sounds of it. He's thinking that you will talk to him about whatever happened to try and get close to you again. It's sometimes easier for people to communicate via messages and friends so he can get a feeler for the situation. He obviously brought the card over to you to generate a conversation. The ball is in your court, if you have moved on and not interested politely tell him you would rather have distance or if you want something again with him let a new relationship develope. He could also just want to be friends so don't rush into anything, sometimes people work better as friends but I couldn't tell you if this was the case as I don't know the two of you well enough. I hope this gives a little light to the situation

It's a sign of immaturity and inability to communicate clearly. Good thing he's your ex! I'd contact him (don't bother with texting, a phone conversation is needed) and politely tell him you would prefer to talk to him directly, rather than air your laundry to friends/family/ or co-workers. Don't let him get the best of you, but tell him you deserve some respect on your end.

Stand your ground. Best of luck!

After reading what happened, I still wouldn't make any rash moves. The thought of you getting kicked out of the bar maybe gave him mental images of you being manhandled by bouncers etc. You were there & you know it wasn't intense, but he might have heard a spiced up version.
I've had an ex making regular 'hello how are u' contact with me, and I don't think he understood how much energy I wasted trying to understand it. I know I've made similar contact after dumping guys, but I didn't want them back, which I understand now was pretty thoughtless on my part.
I really think that ur priority here should be preserving ur dignity. I have found this to be the most important aspect of break-up survival. If this is a gesture by him to get ur attention and you don't respond, he'll try something more obvious next time. Each attempt by him will become more obvious, and then you can ask him about it without the worry that u'll end up looking like a tool.

Try not to read into it too much. It's hard to say without knowing what happened to u; if you'd been in an accident or something horrible the day before, I can understand why he would want to acknowledge it. He doesn't hate u. You guys had a relationship so he can't help but care when something happens to u. Its kind of a habit that guys get into; even after they break up with a girl they care for, they still feel a bit of a need to protect her. But "care for" doesn't necessarily mean he wants you back. Try to shelve this at the back of ur mind. If he starts to make very frequent contact with u, ask him about it. But for now, play it cool. We girls like to analyse every aspect of our ex's behaviour for any nuance of meaning, but his behaviour could mean a million things. Wait for a positive sign. Eventually, you'll get sick of waiting (if you don't get any good signs) and u'll move on.

maybe he likes your mutual friend so now he's involved and probably he's the type who likes drama in his life. I advise to stay away from him and act like he doesn't exist. if he's willing to lie to you once, he'll lie again and again. there's no point in associatin with someone who keeps being annoying and you guys aren't together anymore so..