Hey, I recently caught my boyfriend cheating through myspace, he has been texting this other girl and told her he was single and wanted to meet up. She was ringing him and I managed to speak to her, because he wouldn't admit it. So I broke it off with him even though he said that he was never going to meet up with her. Since we broke up he has been in contact saying that he's sorry and wants me back. I have told him no but there is a part of me which still likes likes him but feels like he may repeat his behavior again. Should I agree to meet up as friends later down the line? There seems to be two sides to his personality, could I ever forgive this behavior and trust him again is what I am asking myself :-(
First, you have feelings for him and he betrayed your trust. Thats a bad combination for you to get back into a bad relationship. A guy who cheats on you or even flirts with the idea of it doesn't respect your relationship. Thats an obvious conclusion, but you continue to deny it. Every girl knows the reality of these things, but somehow finds a way to believe her case is the exception.
Second, if he doesn't respect you and you don't trust him, you can't even be friends. You don't even have the basics for a platonic friendship. The only reason you even consider friendship is because of your attachment/feelings towards him. Thats a terrible reason to be friends with someone who has hurt you and may hurt you again.
You have to keep in mind, Technically, he didn't (physically) cheat. There may have been an attempt to "creep", but once you found out the details, it DIDN'T happen. Sitting around wondering "what if", or punishing him for trying, and lying to you, seems logical for a woman scorned, but, he's apologized, he wants you back, and you are still feeling him, of course he deserves another chance. Only let him suffer a little longer, (lol).
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 7 months ago
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