How do you move on?

I believe that everyone has that one person that they will never get over, no matter how much time passes or who they end up spending the rest of their life with. It could be your first love, your first real boyfriend/girlfriend, a crush, a FWB. Anyone. I think that this person touches us in a way that changes us forever. Maybe I sound corny but it's true.

The thing is that even though we never get over this person, the intensity of our feelings changes eventually and with time you learn to accept that he/she is not with you and you put him/her away in the back of your mind or a special corner of your heart as a fond memory that will always make you smile despite all the tears that he/she may have caused you in the past. You end up just being thankful for having this person cross your path and teaching you something, whatever that is only you know. You might still be friends with that person or you may never see them again but for a moment they existed in your life.

Then you meet other ppl, date, socialize, eventually get married and form a family and the amount of times you think about that other person from your past is very limited because even though you never get over them in some way life makes you get over them and move on. At your age it's hard to believe that and you'll probably feel INTENSE crushes on many guys so don't stress it too much. They won't all be "Never get over" types. It just feels like that at the moment because it's part of being a teenager.

There are some people you will never get over. So what you have to do is try to deal with it the best you can. Try doing things that will make you take your mind off that person

Realize that if one door closes another door and opportunity will open. Every times it rains, a flower grows. There will be some that you really care about, that will come and go. There's always one person for everyone, and you just haven't found him yet. Don't feel sad over the fact you have to move on, be happy over the fact that you CAN move on, and you have the strength to move on, everyone had a prince charming, maybe you just need to kiss a frog, lol

It takes a long time to move on. Especially if it was a great relationship for the most part. If it was your first love, it'll take time, a lot of time. It's been a year since my first love and I broke up, and I'm still not over him. Take a step back from everything and wait a while before starting to date again. That's the best advice I could give you on this.

Moving on, takes time, and it can be so painful in the process, (depending on the circumstances) but, it really does get better. Breaking-up, is like having the flu or a cold. You feel so "Blah", stomach hurts, head hurts, don't want to socialize, or eat. It is a very lonely experience even when you are around your friends, but each day it does get a little easier. Rebounding (dating someone new soon after a break-up) is not something I would suggest doing, because if you start dating someone new, (yes that would be moving on), they would serve a purpose for a short time. They would simply fill a void (the void your ex left). When you start feeling better, and you have gotten over your ex, your new love has nothing to offer you anymore, and there is another relationship down the drain, only they would be the one grieving this time. Fill that void with something positive, read a good book, avoid the places he would normally frequent, get your nails done, get your hair done, cry if you need to, cry until you can't cry anymore. If you can, when you feel a desire to think about that person (quickly) replace the thought with something else. Do not focus on him, "recognize the thought", remove the thoughts of him, when they come, replace them with good thoughts about yourself, think about you, and how great you are, and what a fool he was for not seeing that. In time, you will be alright.

Ok when I was 15 I fell in love with the most lovely guy& he felt the same of course it ended in tears all my friends told me your only young you will get over him. I'm 19 now and I haven't gotten over him I still love him but the only difference now is I don't think about him 24/7 and I don't cry over him and I can go out meet other guys and really like them as were as before I couldn't not think about him at all and I never liked anyone because they weren't him! But I still love him now and I still feel as nobody will ever come close to him but my life doesn't evolve around him so that's good! But it will get easier in time