I recently found out that my boyfriend was still doing pot. He gave up smoking, but still did pot and drank. It ate away at me until I finally talked to him about it. I have never hidden my disapproval for drugs and it bugged me a lot when he said that he wasn't going to quit. He said that he only did it on holidays and that it isn't going to hurt him. I argued that it would (it kills brain cells) he said that he didn't need that many brain cells, he already knew everything he needed to know in life. In the end, all he could say was, "I'm sorry. " I dumped him later that day and he seemed to be ok. I still like him, a lot. What I did was done because I care about him too much and can't stand to see him hurt himself. He thinks I overreacted and now he doesn't really talk to me and has gone back to calling himself gay. What he doesn't know is that I cry nearly every night because I miss him, but I can't go back to him if he's still doing drugs(it's against my morals). Everyone says I'm better off without him (he can be really rude sometimes), but I still miss him and care. What should I do? Was what I did right?
Update: Just wanna thank everyone.It took a while to get used to, but I'm fine w/out him now.I'm still trying to be friends,I guess that's up to him. All of your answers were wonderful(it's a shame I could only choose 1 as the best). Again, thanks for everything!
7 months ago
You did the right thing. The kid's an idiot and has no future. Smoking marijuana is NOT cool and is not healthy. Anything that alters your state of mind is not to be taken lightly. I share and respect your stance on drugs and am advising you to forget about this kid, because he obviously doesn't care about what you think. But what do I know, I'm Just A Random Guy.
Definitely. If he didn't even seem upset that you broke up with him then he obviously loves drugs more than you. Besides, drugs cause more problems than they're worth, and you don't want to be with someone who values them more than your relationship. If he loves you he'd come back to u, but ur def better off without him
I think you are doing what's best for you at the moment. If he knows that these are things you strongly disapprove of then she should not be so surprised that you have left him. You have your morals and standards and if he is not willing to accept that about you, then you are better off. I know it is hard for you, but remember he needs to get help.
I think you should still be his friend and still talk to him. You should try and help him quit these things and maybe tell him that pending his quitting, you would take him back. It is always easier said than done, but if he is unwilling to change, then you need to let him go. Don't let someone like him bring you down because it sounds like you have your head on straight. Someday when he is up to your level, then maybe he can be lucky enough to have you back.
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