So me and this guy talked for about a month. He lives so far away and is always working. He never really made time for me. So I broke it off. I actually did this twice. Anyway. You wanna talk about chemistry! We have it! Well I asked him if he wanted to be my friend or if we were gonna do the "I never knew you" and "ignore" each other like a bunch of kids thing. He said "no. I'm not a little kid. We can be friends" Well I saw him last night at the dance hall (we have text each other since the break) and he didn't speak one word to me. He never asked me dance. Nothing. Now get this. He has a big group of friends that he goes with. 3 of his guy friends that night tried to hook up with me. No joke! We have some of the same friends so I was standing like 2 feet from him while his buddies were flirting with me. Talk about weird.
Well here is the question. Was he trying to show me that it doesn't bother him by coming over there and trying to talk to his guy friends while they were flirting with me? Why wouldn't he talk to me? Is because he does have feelings. Or because he doesn't. I'm so confused.
I'm sure it bothered him that his friends were talking to me more than they weren't talking to him. Now he is a leo and they have huge issues with pride. However we did make eye contact like 5 or 6 times and he just looked so empty inside. Now he was laughing and flirting with all his g-friends (he a ladies man as most leo men are) but there was just a different look in his eyes. Anyway. Any clue why he couldn't just come over and say hi? Maybe he was waiting on me or maybe I am intimidating. As most men say I am. Please share. THANKS! :)
Sometimes when a person breaks off a relationship they forget that two people are involve in this idealistic structure that we call relationship. You might have been ready to move on and call it quits but he wasn't ready and he might have even caught him off guard with the bad news of the break up. However, but his pride won't let his emotion and feeling be shown towards you especially if your the type off girl that could leave relationship on the drop of a dime. Its not that he doesn't want to speak to you is that he doesn't want show that the break up is bothering him and that his capable of moving on just quick as you can. Cheer!
Hmmm. So him not speaking to me is suppose to make me think he is moving on? Men are so weird! HAHA! That's just immature to me. Should I make conversation first? I mean I was the first to text him after the break to be sure we were still friends. Maybe I just don't mean anything to him. - 5 months ago
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Actually you mean allot to him and that is the issue that he is wrestling with. No! Do call him or text him first because that will empower him to label you as hang over female that does not leave him alone and he ll make that the case in order to feel a closure in the break up. Cheer! - 5 months ago
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It's just weird standing 2 feet from him, talking to his friends and us acting like we don't know each other. I don't wanna get back with him &I think he has so much pride! Like he trys to act cool. But I'm no fool! He hates rejection so maybe this is his way of dealing with it. Does seeing his best buddies flirt with me bother him? Do you think eventually he will speak to me? I mean I guess this is a good thing, becuz if he didn't care then he would be able to talk to me with no problem. - 5 months ago
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Yes, flirting with his buddies those in fact bother him a great deal. However, he might or had flirt/flirted with females at your present to provoke some type of emotion in you (or his action might be or had been motivated by anger and revenge) whatever the case he still need closure. Yes, he will speak to you sooner or later (more likely later than sooner) as a friend but he might be in a relationship before decides to speak to again to prove to you that he can move on. P.S If you see upset man with a need of closure as not a problem .than you are in trouble .cheers!!! - 5 months ago
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