A week and a half ago my boyfriend of 7 years and I broke up. We got in an argument because I told him he didn't seem to care about me enough to want to hang out with me. I told him all he wanted to do was be with his friends and that now that they were single all he wanted to do was be with them. I told him sometimes it felt that he didn't want to be with me anymore. He told me that he loves me and cares about me but that he thinks I love him more. When he told me this I broke up with him. I got upset because I thought things were good. He told me that he's been feeling like this for one month and I just keep thinking about what happened in a month. We didn't talk for a whole week and than he finally called me. We saw each other and he told me that he still loves me and he hopes what he's feeling goes away. He says that he doesn't want to be selfish and make me wait if its too hard for me. He said if I feel like I need to move on that he wouldn't like it but that he would have to deal with it. He says he doesn't want to be with anybody and that he knows what he'll be losing. He says that I deserve someone that could give me everything I deserve and he knows that he doesn't have anything to offer me. He says that I have a good future ahead of me and he doesn't. We've been talking everyday but just knowing that I can't be with him is killing me. What should I do?
Well sweetie of course it's killing you! Let me tell you something. Life is too short and there are too many men out there ;) 7 years is a long time. But there is a huge difference between him loving you and him being in love with you. Of course you love each other, however, that's just not enough to stay in a relationship. If y'all do get back together. It will be way down the road. Sweetheart go and date other people, have fun, meet new friends. By God he's just a man. Let him sow his oats per say. If he's young and y'all have dated for 7 years. If you don't let him do this now. There is a huge chance of him cheating on you later down the road. That's just going to add to the heartache. Since he is being honest with you. Don't get upset. Yes it's not what you wanna hear, but you have to be strong. Love will always find a way if it's true. If not. Well then just look at this as another lesson learned or another chapter in you're life. Best of luck sweetie! Hang in there. I know it's tuff :)
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