Why do men treat women badly?

Not all men treat women badly, it might be that you met the wrong ones, or have heard of their stories from friends. Some men have their swings at times and you can make all the difference to make them feel comfortable and make things work out between you. Granted that they will do the same when the time comes. If your, or his outlook to the relationship is negative and cynical to begin with, there is not much you can do to sustain a healthy relationship for a long time. You ( or he) should get that taken care of first and then start over.

I think it's because so many girls let them get away with it.

It's called a guilty conscience

My love do you know what this sounds like to me. It sounds like you haven't met the man for you. I thought all men were the same and that the man of my dreams only exsisted in movies but you know what he does exsist and I get to hug him everyday. It did take a lot of work and effort to get to where we are now but there is no longer any work or effort. It all comes naturally to us like breathing. When I boast to his friends about what he does for me they can't believe that I'm talking about the same guy and what a gentleman I turned him into. Everyone has someone out there that they will change their ways for no matter how bad they are. You just haven't found him yet. This doesn't mean you should settle. When you'll find the one for you, even when his making you sad and he is being bad, you'll have this feeling inside you telling you that it is worth feeling bad and being sad over him.