How can I get him to talk to me again?

Hi there,

I've been through something similar, although it was precancer, and I didn't need chemo or radiation. Cervical cancer is very curable - I know how stressful this is, but really, if you have to have cancer, this is one of the best ones to get. It is slow-moving.

You will be fine; it will be cured; and you will find a great man who returns your calls! You broke up with him for a reason (I read the question): he wasn't meeting your needs. Now that you're feeling vulnerable, you want everyone around. I understand that, but I think it's better for you to stick with people who have always been there for you.

I guess you weren't getting regular Pap tests, so I really hope you will (and I hope all women reading this will too).

Also, to any young women who read this - PLEASE consider the HPV vaccine; I wish it had been around for me, as it would have saved me a lot of grief.

Do you keep in contact with him? I don't really understand why you want him to know because it sounds like you haven't talked to him in a while. I know you are going through hard times and if it came to becoming life threatening ( as in none of the therapy is working, not that cancer isn't life threatening mind you) then I can see possibly why you would want him to know. Did you just break up recently? He is still probably on an emotional roller coaster if it was recent. If it was just recent then I would have him know. If it has been months since you talked to him then let him be. I know it sounds harsh and cruel but why should he need to know? Your friend tried and if he ever confronts you on it you can tell him it was his own fault. I wouldn't go any further unless it falls under what I mentioned above.

I guess what you wrote leaves me wondering. If you broke it off with him, why is it so important for him to be one of the people with you now? He could be in much pain and expecting him to be there could be more than he can handle, especially if the relationship is still off, and even given your condition. It doesn't mean he didn't care. It could be the opposite. Are you having second thoughts? Was breaking it off a mistake? If not, then I would let him be and focus on your current circle of friends and relatives. Be happy if he sends a card.

Go to his house and tell him,
i dun believe love will went away that quick. He should have some feeling for you.

:( sorry to hear your unfortunate

You have to think about yourself. You broke-up with him. Someone told him a week ago that you needed loved ones around, you broke-up with him. Maybe he is still hurting from the sudden break-up from you, maybe he's not in town, maybe he never go the message, why don't you call him , and tell him you want to see him? Why don't you wait until he finds out? , and take care of you. You can't be stressin over him right now, that's the last thing you need, he'll be in touch.

Well if he is that special to you you a fool. If he really cares for you, he would be coming to visit you when you need him. He's not worth it. Sorry about your tumor, ill be praying.

Well he obviously cares since he is taking it so hard. Let him know I'm sure he would care.

I hope you get better, my dad has cancer so I know it can be hard at times

Firstly, I hope you feel better and I hope that your family and friends are there with you to help you out during this time. Secondly, I think you should let your boyfriend know the truth. I guess if he's taking the break-up hard. He must have loved you truly and still does. If he did not reply back to the "medical treatment" message your friend sent him. Then he's not worth it. On the other hand, however, he might not have gotten or read the message. I think you should give him a call and talk to him. Tell him what you are going through. Whether he cares or doesn't after that is his choice. I think on your part you should let him know what's really up. The reassurance you'll have after you have told him will only be good for you. You'll be able to relax yourself knowing he knows and you'll also know whether he was worth it or not.

Goodluck.

I wish you the best of luck. I don't know why you 2 broke up , but your best friend maybe right you probably did hurt his feelings. HOWEVER if she ( I'm just assuming its a female) left him a message explaining to him that you were having a medical treatment done and he hasn't called back. . Just to ask if your ok. . He's a jerk. On the other hand I 2 have been guilty of erasing messages without having listened to them , so that is another possibility. Because you are humble now I think maybe you should give him a call yourself if it means that much 2 you to have his support right now. If he doesn't respond you put up a good fight. . Beat cancer. And come out a better person. . You'll b ok