My boyfriend told me this is the reason he wants to break up with me:
He feels emotionally cheated on, because I have been seeing and talking a lot with a good guy friend (who is the very person that gives my boyfriend and I good relationship advice).
Guys (and girls) what do you think I should do? I really need help as he's quite insecure.
I just don't think it's fair to break up on something that didn't and won't happen.
He most likely thinks that you're doing something with him, but obviously hasn't said anything. If it were me then I'd be the same, because there's 2 people in a relationship not 3. Tell your boyfriend that no one will ever replace him, and the dude you talk to is strictly a friend. He should be alright about it then.
I believe that one of the factors that makes a good relationship is having both people be at the same emotional maturity level. This could be a good time for your boyfriend to realize that he is not that emotionally mature, and maybe to accept that is ok for you to have other male friends; however, if he is not ready for that, time to find a guy that is at the level of your maturity level. Of course if you want to stay with him, your only choice is to tell him that nothing has gone on between you and your other male friend, and that he needs to learn how to trust you; if he can't do that, then time to move on.
If your relationships with your guy friends are truly above-the-board: I. E. , no flirting, no feelings, etc. , than your guy needs to man up. He does sound very insecure and of course you shouldn't break up over something that didn't happen, but maybe you should break up because he's not man enough for you. If you're going to have to constantly worry about him freaking out about your guy friends, it's just not worth it.
I, too, have a lot of great guy friends, and have typically just been able to bond with guys better. Every guy I've ever dated has been able to accept that and not feel cheated on or betrayed. There are guys like out there, and it sounds like you should hold out for one!
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
- Excuse me Miss, I was watching you from over there and I have to say that I just love your smile. It makes me happy just to just sit and watch you smiling. Could you please do that again?
(she hopefully smiles and gives up a sweet happy laugh)
- Oh dear, you just made my day - both a lovely smile and a lovely laughter! Thanks for making my day, Miss.
How do they typically respond?
Well, to be honest I haven't tried it yet since I almost never go out nowadays, but I wouldn't hesitate it I was to be in this situation. The way I do it, I would not be pushy or anything. After my last comment I would probably leave her for now, but try to bump in to her again later that evening, smile and ask for that lovely laugh again. And then maybe, we can start to have a conversation.
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