Last friday my girlfriend and her friend rented a motel for the night so they could have a good time or whatever. She's 2 years older than me (shes 22), so she has a different social group than me, same HS but the older crowd. I went to the bar with my friends, she went to the bar with her friends, she acted a little disinterested around me in front of her guy friends, so I ignored her the rest of the night. Around last call she comes over to me and kisses me on the cheek and says she's going back to the motel with her friends.
Around 4 I was just hanging with my boys and she texted me to come over now that everyone was gone but her and her friend, I asked her who was over at the motel and she said it ended up being her and her friend and 2 other dudes. I didn't text back and haven't talked to her since, I'm a little pissed off, I'm assuming she cheated on me. I can tell she's trying to play me or take advantage of me since I'm younger, but I really liked her compared to other girls I've dated. This is balls what should I do?
Umm. Why weren't you hanging out with her at the motel anyway. And if it's a "girls night" why would it be ok to have 2 guys over there but not you? If it's a girls night isn't it supposed to be girls only? If it was supposed to be a boy girl party thing but only 2 guys ended up there why weren't you there? That's stupid. What's her problem. She's asking you to go over there when guys leave. Sounds to me she didn't want you there to see her flirting, or (doing whatever) How could you guys not see this or suspect this? It kind of looks so obvious to me.
We were both doing our own thing that night but ended up at the same bar, and then she left. It was definitely weird and fishy. Either way I don't trust her at all so I'm going to have to end it. - 5 months ago
Maybe you should try telling her how you feel about the situation and that you suspect that she has cheated on you. I'm not saying one way or another that she did or didn't, but if you ask at least you'll know. Not talking to her and assuming is not going to get you anywhere here but pissed off. It sounds to me like you're not the kind of guy to put up with someone cheating on you. So, I think the best way to handle this is to get all of the facts and take it from there. Good luck!
If she was cheating which I highly doubt, she probably wanted to, 1. Apologize. 2. Ask why you were so distant. Or 3. Break up with you. I'm guessing it was number TWO. You should talk to her if you really have feelings for her then that's what you would do and you wouldn't believe she is a "slut". So TALK TO HER BEFORE SHE FINDS SOMEONE ELSE, that is if she already hasn't
It wasn't until she acted distant that I left her. I do have strong feelings for her, but its the you want what you can't have/control kind of way. Role reversal. I've never dated an older girl, didn't know what I was getting into, its much easier dating someone your own age or younger haha. - 5 months ago
I don't see why you are assuming she cheated. If she had I doubt she would've told you that the guys were even there. Is there a bigger reason you suspect her?
My older brother told me she was a bit of a 'slut'. Slept around a lot in highschool. - 5 months ago
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Well if you're going to go by that you'll never trust her. And if that's the case, I guess you probably should split up. Although I'm really not convinced anything happened here. It seems weird to me that you didn't ask her. - 5 months ago
Thats just a little weird don't you think if she cheated she wouldn't of told you that they were there and instead have gotten them to leave b4 you got there? - 4 months ago
Getting a room and doing whatever doesn't sound girlfriend-like, but I wouldn't assume that she cheated without more to go on. It doesn't sound like there was much having to do with you and her in the scheme of evening. Ignoring her didn't help that - even if it may have seemed like a suitable reaction to her disinterested. If she is supposed to be a girlfriend, I think you have a right to be steamed. But I have to wonder if she sees it as more than casual. It's a catch-22 because you won't know what may have gone on, until you give her a chance to explain. But if she's playing you, then how much do you believe? Another thing to consider is that she's using you to play someone else. Or, is it possible that it's the friend who has an interest in you? I'd either wait to hear from her and let her try to explain the what and why. Or fire off a text and say what's the story here? But then I don't know what the terms of the relationship were from the start.
Ive slept over at her place practically ever night for the past 4 months, there's no debate whether we were together or not. Its was just unacceptable behavior to me, I've got boundaries - 5 months ago
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