He dumps you and says that he's incredibly sad about the break-up (he does still cares about me), but we haven't been "communicating" and that it's time to just call it quits.
He said there was not anyone else in the relationship, and he does not want another one, but what about sex?.?.?
He says it's none of his business what I do, and he didn't care if I had sex with someone else tonight.
People handle things differently, My girlfriend broke up with me out of the blue. Even though she had broken up with me, she was crying and I wasn't. In fact, she had broken up with me for another guy. I wasn't mad in the least; I sincerely wished her good luck with him.
My point is, some people will go straight for a rebound, others will be depressed for weeks before going back to normal life.
Now, for the same thing I say to everyone about relationships, even if they've just dumped me, good luck.
My girlfriend ended my last long term relationship and I had sex later that day. She knew I had sex with many girls before I dated her and she knew Id sleep with many after we broke up. I also could not possibly care if she had sex soon after either.
To answer your question; a guy can probably have sex with someone else within the hour after breaking up. To a large extent, guys (and girls) are like monkeys, they won't let go of one branch until they have a grip on another.
That's not to say that this is your case. All break-ups are sad, even the ones that you initiate. If there is no-one else as he said, then it could be a while before he begins a sexual relationship with someone else.
He's right when he says that it's none of his business what you do tonight; however, if you do have sex with someone else, it will empower and confirm his breaking up with you.
Are you wondering how long to wait for YOU to have sex? or him? it's different for each person - and what you decide could hurt him, and vice versa. it's really up to you. but I can say that after coming out of a relationship, it's usually a good idea to wait awhile. you don't want to self-medicate with sex. that creates a whole host of different problems!
He is lying! Read between the lines he said you can so why not if go for himself? huh? Pay attention! I believe all guys lie so there is no way in my mind that he hasn't had sex with someone else.
That's a horridly generalized view on men. You need to be careful with such cynicism, It may cause you to lose someone you actually wound up caring about. Personally I'm offended by such a blind generalization. - 3 months ago
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Again, the question is NOT "do you think he's sleeping with someone else, or if he was lying to me". The question was "HOW LONG does the typical guy wait until he has sex?"
Perhaps you should not read between the line, but pay attention to the question being asked of the group...
btw - EVERYONE lies, you me, and everyone else... It's just part of human nature. - 3 months ago
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