I've been broken up with my ex for almost 6 months and we haven't spoken in over 4 months. We were dating for a little over 6 years. We started dating at the end of high school, so most of our relationship was long distance as we went to different colleges. She came to my school our senior year. I graduated last year and she stayed for grad school.
We made it work until December and she called for a break. She didn't really explain why she wanted the break, so I took it as she was interested in dating other people. So, I decided to end our relationship. It turns out that all she wanted was space to figure things out and gain back her independence. She is not currently dating anybody as I heard from a mutual friend.
Back in March, I called my old roommate just to see if he had bumped into her because all I wanted to know is how she was doing. Apparently he called her up and was harassing her which I never told him to do in the first place. Now, she feels that I'm turning people against her which is a shame. I'm not that kind of person and I would never do that to her especially when I still care for her deeply.
Anyway, with the time apart, I realized that I want to spend my life with her. I know there are plenty of fish in the sea, but she's the particular fish I want to be with. I don't know if I should just let it go for now and see if she reaches out to me because I sent her a letter about a month ago, but I haven't had a response. For you girls, is 4 months still very little time out of a 6 year relationship? I don't want to lose her to another guy.
6 Years is a long time to be with someone, you share so much with that person. Many relationships take a break around graduation it is very common. Individually you are trying to find your own path in life. I feel for you in this situation is it heart wrenching.
I can not tell you what to do but follow your instincts. Really think about if being in the relationship is better then being single. Do not want her back because she is dating someone else that's jealousy, but want her back for who she is. Its hard but I believe as hard as it may seem if you really love her and feel she is the one tell her. Let yourself be exposed, and you may get hurt she might have moved on but at least you know you tried and it might help you move on then to.
4 months is not that long after being with someone for 6 years, they say that it takes half as long as you were with someone to get over that someone so in your situation 3 years. I am sure she is still thinking about you a lot too since she wanted to break to be independence not date someone else. Its not an easy path and there is no right or wrong answerer but what every you do do it with intention and heart.
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