I've been in a relationship with my now ex-boyfriend for the past two years. He was my first love, first relationship, first everything. We are both musicians- both free-spirited non-conformists. and we (or at least I) really truly love each other. Recently, he decided that he needed to move on with his life. He flat-out does not want to be in a relationship anymore. He doesn't want to have to worry about anyone but himself. he's selfish, this I've known since I met him. but he tells me that he'll never meet another woman as great as me, he loves me, blah blah blah. what the hell is going on? I know that I'm a quite a dame and as far as him finding someone better. I have no doubt that he never will- but then why is he doing this to me? I love him endlessly. I'm a royal mess about it. I was a perfect girlfriend, we had a flawless relationship, I was adventurous and frisky in the bedroom(and perhaps other places.) I feel that this is all just a bad dream and I'm going to wake up any time now. please help me understand this mess.
your relationship wasnt flawless if you are not together now.yes you are right he won't meet another woman like you again and you won't meet another guy like him again but you will love someone just as much again.if he loved you as much as he did at the start he would still want a relationship with you as no guy in there right mind is going to walk away from the woman they are in love with
Commitment can be a real problem. I am actually in the exact same position as you are with my ex, except we have not lasted that long, and she was not my first love, and we've never had sex before. My ex doesn't feel commited to a relationship right now, she tells me she still loves me, but she just doesn't want to be with me right now. (it's one of my questions) anyhow, just let time pass. you'll realize you don't really have to blame yourself. it's his fault for breaking up with you, you shouldn't feel bad. it's not your problem, he just has to deal with his own.
Maybe you were and did everything almost everything a guy could ask for. But if you split up, then it doesn't seem that the relationship could have been flawless. Something made him feel the need to move on. That could be nothing but fear of commitment or it could be something else. If you are on the outside wondering why, then at the very least he is not communicating something - or he is and you're missing it. One time I broke up (the toughest time actually), and she didn't know the true reason. At the time it seemed she was going to believe what she wanted. And since we would be forever apart, why would it matter? But I realize now that if she ever one day realized that she was wrong about the biggest problem, it would not seem like a reason to get back together. She would still think I was upset about a different matter. Maybe over time both could have been fixed. I didn't think that enough time existed. But by not communicating I eliminated that possibility. Ask him if he really knows he'll never meet another woman like you, then why quit? Asking can't make things worse.
to be honest if he was in love with you he would stay with you and he wouldn't want say that he didn't want to have to worry about anyone but himself as all he would want is you in his life!
there has to be a lot more to his reason as it doesn't quiet come together because when someone is in love with someone the last thing the want or think of doing is break up with them and move on
My ex boyfriend broke up with me about four months ago, after dating for 8 months and being friends for about 4 years. He gave me no good excuse, just...
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
First dates are tricky. You want to impress but not go overboard. My ideal first date would start with dinner at a restaurant with an atmosphere where we can get to know each other. I'd wear a pair of jeans, a dark button down semi-casual dress shirt and a leather jacket just in case she gets cold. We'd go dancing after the date if she's up for it, after which I drop her off at her place.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
She'll hopefully know I'm not the worst dancer she's ever seen, that I have a good sense of humor, and that I'm a good guy. Other than that, you've got to keep yourself somewhat a mystery because if you spill your entire life story early on she's going to lose interest pretty quick. Hopefully, if everything goes well, she'll also know she can kiss me back by the end of the first date.
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