I officially got stood up. We were at our meeting place and I waited, and texted him and called him, but he never picked up. I ended up calling my girls and having a night out with them instead.
He TEXTS me the next day, apologizing for the night before. He says his excuse is so retarded too. He hopes I'm not too mad, and that I should call or text HIM so he can fill me in.
I SHOULD CALL HIM SO HE CAN FILL ME IN?! Honestly?
I never called or texted. He never did either. The next day I still didn't call. I didn't hear from him as well. Sunday night, I got fed up, I texted him and said:
"I don't like what you're doing. If texting makes it easy for you to apologize and imply expect me to forgive you easily, then it's fair for me to say that it's not working between us. You want ME to call YOU so you can "fill me in"?! Wtf?! There's no effort from you at all. I think making us official was a stupid mistake. WOW ur right, it's so easy to get away with things through text and you don't even have to text back. So there you go."
He still never called.
Now I'm thinking whether I should have just called him and made him realize how furious I was with the situation. I didn't want him to assume it's over, because I want to work things out. But a part of me says I don't deserve this someone who doesn't give enough effort to spend time with me and communicate. I feel so stupid and used. I let my guards down and considered him, while he played me like a puppet.
How do you get over breakups? He was my first serious one. Well sort of serious - he's the one I constantly hung out with and thought of becoming a not-too-long-term boyfriend.
You probably should have at least called him and done it, made it more personal, or better yet, face to face. It may be awkward for you, but imagine his position, he screwed up, so you chew him out in person and force him to respond on his feet instead of giving him a couple of minutes to think and text a reply back.
As far as getting over him, just give it time and enjoy being single, flirt around, etc. That's the best remedy to get over someone.
To be honest, calling him would've made him get an ego boost because you'd be doing what he told you to do. beside, why out any effort in someone who clearly doesn't give a hoot about you? I'm sure you feel like you're always the one doing all the calling, initiating everything, etc. I know it's frustrating because I've been there myself. when he falls short of something, he'll blame it on something or someone but he can never actually own up to his own actions. you should be glad to be rid of someone who'd rather spend more time concocting lies about himself when he should be putting some energy on being more thoughtful towards you. it's insincere, selfish and cowardly. you need to be with someone who's more certain about himself in a relationship, someone who's not going to play games with you. life is too short! spend it with those who deserve you. so forget this guy and just let him be. I know you want to work things out, but it takes 2 to tango my dear. you'll eventually come to accept that you're only fighting with yourself and talking to the walls because he doesn't give a rats ass to even text you back. I don't know how much more you can take it? he's not worthy of you and he knows it. now it's time for you to just accept that he isn't either.
u obviously don't deserve this someone since you are caring too much and he is not showing any sign of care. I think that is a way some guys use to let you (girls) know that they want to end it but don't actually have the guts to face you and tell you themselves that it is over. so he just ran away, letting you figure out yourself that it is over, so he does not feel any remorse. you should totally neglect him, do not call or text nor show him how much you are frustrated and mad. relax and be cool, he should be the one coming after you to make things right, and if not then he was never meant to be the one for u. I can give you a hint, if he saw that you are living ur life normally as if nothing happened and even try ur luck with other guys, then he would feel jealous and come to you so you could forgive him, then the choice is left to you to see how much that person is honest and whether he really deserves you give him another chance. goodluck
weird how he would act that way and he's supposedly a serious boyfriend. usually that behavior signals "i have a girlfriend" and am currently in transition so bear with me type of stuff.
are you sure he wasn't evaluating you on the side?
What do you mean? like he's in a different relationship and I'm the other girl? nah, I don't think so. his last girlfriend was about a year and a half ago. he moved in town 4 months ago, met him 3 months ago, dated for a month, were together for another month, and was official for 1 week. then he screwed up with this sort of sh*t. so I threw him out of my life. - 2 months ago
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