My boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue and shocked me. He was very hurtful and cold about it. I cried for days and have young kids that I had a hard time to care for. I begged and pleaded for him not to do this, I fought so hard, but it made no difference. Now it seems he might be missing me after only less than a week. I love him so much and miss him, my heart wants him back but my head tells me differently, like I would be stupid to trust him again with my heart when all he did was break it the first time. We were great together before, we did have issues but it was just a learning process of getting to know each other still. We fell in-love to quickly then we started to get to know each other. A little backwards, I know. What would you do? Thanks in advance for your opinion.
Give him another chance - The relationship will get stronger. This is how I see it so don't take this to heart, are you acting needy in anyway? like "do you love me?", "where is this relationship going?" type questions or similar, that alone sends us guys running. Have a good talk with him, on the flip side I think he might be looking else where. if it happens again forget it move on
No I wasn't acting needy or pushy in any way. We emailed for a while them talked on the phone for sometime every night before we actually met. 5 days after we met face to face he tells me on the phone to read between the lines and I knew what he meant, I was a bit scared, the next day in a email tells me that he is falling in-love with me. He rushed it all so fast not me. So why would he be running? He says he's not looking else where. He says he loves me but not in love with me. - 3 months ago
Ok seeing as kids are involved I would really talk to him and get a feel for his motivation. The thing is, you are not as fragile as the kids are. You have to pick and choose who to date. It affects and effects the kids just as much if not more than you when you date someone. Now, the fact that you fall into relationships so easily may be indicative to why he left abruptly. Yes it was a jerky move. I would talk to him and find out his reasons for leaving. Then go from there. - 3 months ago
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Tried asking why he wanted out, said we weren't meant to be, he can't be in-love with me right now, very vague. Just the day before that he can't go very long without texting me or email, or calling, that was how he was then all of the sudden he dumps me? He fell into the relationship easily not me, he told me 5, 6 days after meeting face to face that he's falling in-love with me.(we started out with emails then talking on the phone for some time before we met). I was the one that got scared! - 3 months ago
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I gotcha. Well if he can't explain and he's being so wishy washy then he needs to not be in your life. The fact that he's like a rollercoaster now...and it's supposed to be the honeymoon stage is not good. Honeymoon stage is when you first meet anyone (friend, boyfriend etc). I say let this one go. - 3 months ago
It really depends. Are you willing to trust him again? Before deciding that I would sugest having a LONG talk with him. Don't just run back into his arms. See if he wants you back enough to try to convince you. See how much it matters to him before making your choice. How long were the two of you together?
Well this is an easy one. I have been down this road to many times. I was in-love with a guy and for no set reason he dumped me. I cried for days. I loved him so much, but at that time he couldn't give me the time or day. About two weeks after he had dumped me, he wanted to get back together. And I was stupid and let him back into my life once again. He got along with my kids, so I thought I was doing the right thing. Well as it turned out two months later he did the same thing , dumped my ass again. I should have never let him back into to my life the second time. It was a big mistake. And it messed with my kids heads. My son really liked him, and now he was gone again.And I still love him. It will be along time before I ever trust a man again. So take my advise, be smart. Do let him back in your life. Your only asking for trouble. I wish you the best luck.
Sounds just like my situation, but it has been only a week and my kids don't know anything. they just think he is busy. I didn't want to say anything right away in case for some reason we did get back together. So the only risk I would be taking would be with my heart again. That is one that I don't know if it is worth taking. Thanks! - 3 months ago
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One thing you have to ask yourself is. Do you want a guy to come in and out of your life when he feels like it. If he dumped you once, I can almost promise he will do it again. You do not need to put your heart through that. A heart can only handle so much pain. And then you get to the point that I am in life. Where you can't trust any guy. you do not need that. There are a lot of good men out there. Look long and hard and find yourself a better man. Good Luck!! - 3 months ago
She is right!!! he will dump you again especially if you make it easy for him to come back. I would keep it moving. I have been there. If you really want to know if he is serious I would make him wait a long as time or not do it. but getting back after all the cryinng and what not....dont do it - 25 days ago
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