Me & my boyfriend have been together 4 1/2 years & own a house together, However the last few months have been hard, I haven't been well & my boyfriend decided to leave me 1month ago saying it's all got to much for him. Since he left I have been making improvements & I am feeling much better. I have told him in letters how I feel about him & that I understand it got to much & we could get rid of house & just go back to dating, however 2 weeks ago we met up & we ended up sleeping together :-( it felt more than just sex, it felt right because we were kissing & holding each other & he kept just staring at me in the eyes - he said he was confused & didn't know what he wanted, we left it that we'd text each other & the following day he text & said he wanted to see me again so we met up a few days later & again ended up in bed together :-( (hope you don't think bad of me) Anyway my problem is I don't know where I stand, I don't know how mens minds work. He doesn't text unless I text him & when I ask if there is any chance of us getting back together he says he doesn't know & needs to get his head straight.
What's the best thing to do? I don't know wether to leave contacting him & let him chase me or what? His going out with his mates every night & I worry his pride will stop him coming back? hope you can give me some advice on what's best to do. thanks xx
You're his girl on the side. Since you're not in a relationship with him, he's more or less free to do as he pleases, which includes seeing other women. When he's had no one interested in him, you've been providing him with his fix. End the 'benefits' part of your relationship and you'll force out his true feelings.
Considering your history, and the considerable investment you have together, holding on may be the best choice.
I am assuming he is in the same age range as you. It is possible he has troubles at work, or with his parents, friends or others.
I'm more inclined to think that he is scared about where your relationship is going. Did you bring up marriage prior to this situation (not necessarily right before, but anytime in the recent past)?
He's more than likely doubting whether he can provide for you the way he feels you deserve. It's clear he cares deeply about you and wants to satisfy you in everyway.
Give him time, but let him know that you want to make it work. This should open the communication up.
U jus need to make sure that he is exactly what you want. If he is, then make sure that you are up front and straight forward about your feelings. If you need to know something don't hesitate to guess or jus create situations based on assumptions. I was in your situation but I wasn't woman enough to go after my man so I lost him, be strong and good luck.
Well I would tell him he needs to get his head straight or you are going to get over him! And then if he says he still confused I would go find another man to see what he does you know to see how much he really cares about you.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
We would start off the night going to a movie or bowling, then go out to eat to a fancy restaurant Then we would probably go hang out at the mall, maybe go ice skating , or just hang , just to get to know each other more. I would wear jeans, black sneakers, a nice shirt and my sweet Boston red sox hat. At the end of the date home because I mean it is only the first date unless we kicked it off
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
They would know that I was an awesome guy, I love sports, I am absolutely hilarious and they would want to go on a second date with me
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When: 2 months ago
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