She met him 8 mos. after I did in 1999. They kept in contact even after our marriage in 2001. We eventually got stationed in the same city as she lived in in 2003. I found out about her in 2006. He had been pursuing her and promising her that he was going to leave me. He finally did 3/2008, after he couldn't take anymore arguing, or living a life with me that he said he wasn't happy with. He has been saying he wasn't happy since 2005. He says that she didn't have anything to do with our break up.
I just want to know if anyone could shed their opinion on my issue and tell me why they think my husband will not file for a divorce. I am not going to file because I am still in love with him and never wanted for us to break up. He recently emailed me that on the contrary of what he has been telling me, he has not just moved on with his life, because my question to him was how could you move on with your life and you are still married. He informed through email that he had not moved on with his life and in the same email told me to not get involved with a man who has no goals, dreams and most importantly a relationship with God. What do you all think?
If you have any bank accounts in both of your names, then create a new one with only your name and make a transfer fast. If you have a house and YOU are the one making mortgage payments on it, keep records of every payment you make. Keep a record of pretty much every bill you pay and save it for the lawyers. Be prepared to take as many dollars from him as you can in the divorce court (because it's coming soon by him or you).
About his email, he doesn't know what he wants and has no right to tell you who to be with. He says he hasn't "moved on." Ask him to define exactly what "moving on" means. Your husband told you not did get involved with a man with no goals, dreams, or a relationship with God. Are you sure he wasn't describing himself? How can he have a relationship with God when he cannot have a relationship with a loving wife in the first place? He obviously doesn't love you and you will find your love for him one-sided. You have to let him go to save yourself. He is lost. If he is a financial drain on you (you didn't mention that but I can only assume) then he will continue to do so. He will not change.
Save yourself and divorce him. You still have many years left to live. You can find a man who will be faithful to you, but it's not him.
Wow, Ok, it's over. It's been over for years. Stop being in denial. You can't be in a marriage by yourself. Let go. I did and I am happy as all get out.
File for the divorce and move on. Life is too short to try to hang on to a relationship that has been over for years and the other person has no interest in repairing it.
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