How can I move on, and get rid of this hurt?

I just went through a fairly similar situation, I really liked my girlfriend, but it just wasn't meant to be, it wasn't working out, no matter hard I wanted it to. Anyway, me and her are no longer in a relationship and I became really depressed. I spoke to friends, family, and I wrote down the things I liked about my ex and the things I didnt. When I read the things I didn't like, I thought to myself, what was I thinking! That and other things made me realize that is was also a good thing for me to break up with this girl. I cried myself to sleep a couple times, at times I didn't want to talk to anyone, it got really bad for me as well. But time passes by and your wounds do heal. I'm feeling much better now, but time and time again, I do think about my ex, although I'm not getting sad anymore. I've come to realize that the two months I spent with her were amazing while it lasted, I learned so much from being in a relationship with her, communication skills, learning how to compromise, how to encourage someone when they're feeling down, and realizing that you can't change people! They can only change themselves!

So go hang out with friends, especially the ones who really care, they'll know how to treat you, they'll speak the words that will comfort you. But what you shouldnt do is go straight into another relationship! People usually do this to avoid grieving over their last relationship, don't do that! You've just entered the time period I like to call the break between relationships! This is where you'll learn new things from ur last relationship, things like what you want in a man and what you just can't have. This is why its important to not jump right into another relationship, so for now, you should do what I did, write down your thoughts, write down what you liked in ur ex and what you didnt, I'm sure you'll realize new things and see things in a different perspective!

Another thing, you are gonna go through some cycles of grieving, anger, and acceptance, its not all gonna happen in one shot. After each cycle you'll be feeling much better :), but the first one will hit you hard, and I'm pretty sure u've passed the first cycle since your posting on this website, not to mention the fact that you said you're hurting, so the worst is over! . "The heart does heal and YOU WILL LOVE LIKE THIS AGAIN- except that when you do, you'll deny that you ever loved like this before."
So use this period of time to learn, write down ur thoughts and feelings, hang out with ur buddies, do things you love to do, Ohh, almost forgot, be careful with the music, especially the sad ones, might make you nostalgic enough to try to get him back, but if the music makes you feel better, then keep listening to it! Feel free to message me. When I was down and out about my break up I came to this website for help. There was one person that I told everything to, he helped me to deal with my confusion and sorrow, I'll b glad to do the same for someone else :)

Yes, I do. I have been to that too. Well, try to think something that really interests you, and then make a research on it. Also, try to look at yourself and see the good things that are in you. You are a valuable person, and that you exist in this world before you met the guy. Secondly, You have happy times before you met the guy. After your experience, you are being hooked by the thought that you will never be happy without him. That's a lie, you will.because there are still things that did make you happy before, and am sure the future is much brighter, if you leave things behind as an experience. According to an old saying. We can't change the past, but we can change our future. If you want to talk more, write me

Hey Megs, Sorry to hear about the breakup, and the pain. You might like to read Francis MacNutt's "Healing" or Charles Kraft's "Deep Wounds, Deep Healing." Personally, I would suggest you talk it over with God and let Christ become your romantic interest for a while. 1John 1:9-10 says if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and heal us of all unrighteousness. This includes the unrighteousness we have done but, also, the unrighteousness done to us. Unfortunately, this often requires grieving, which is literally the process of expelling the pain from our bodies and allowing our tears to irrigate the wounds of our soul, so Christ can debried and suture them up, allowing them to heal. Without the deep grieving, we cannot get through to the other side, and the freedom there.
May God take you where you need to go, for as long as you need to be there, and show you the freedom on the other side,
David

You probably heard it all already but some things that helped me was make a list of all the bad things in my partner. Whenever I had the feeling of sadness, I would look at it and it would just make the thoughts go away.

Try taking up every single minute of your day, meaning try to do something whether it be talking to friends, going out, cleaning your room etc. I know it probably hurts but each day when you wake up the pain will be less and less till eventually there is no more. It's summer. Go out with your friends and enjoy it. Like I said you probably heard this already but hope it helps. Good luck.

Find something that makes you happy and do it. Think about what you were saying, on one hand you say that it is for the better that the two of you broke up, but on the other you are really sad about it. You have to remind yourself it is for the better, you ARE going to be better of in the long run. Being upset right now is a natural react, but if you want to get over him you have to convince yourself you are better off without him. I believe you are better off, but do you believe it?

Iiight, I got you girl. I been through this before. It did take mii a year to forget about my boii but I got it, find another boii that is better than the other one. Then I want you to make a list, divide it in half(fold it), then writ ur ex boiifriends name on tp and write a good and bad section I want you to see if the bad beats the good. For example if he cheated on you a couple of time, and/ or if he bought you flowers one day for no reason and showed that he care. you get wut I'm saying. I want you to do this. Then turn the paper around and do the same for the new guy. Every thing happens for a reason. ok don't sweat the other boii cause every thing happens for a reason ok. juss throw every thing out that reminds you of him. If you need any help jus ask mii again

I would say the best thing to do is to keep yourself busy.like go out with friends. It will keep your mind off of him and help you realize that you can still have loads of fun without him! When I go through break-ups I usually listen to extremely depressing songs for a while and soon I get sick of it haha. Or you could always use this extreme emotion you are feeling to make yourself into a better person. Like try to be 100000x more amazing than when you guys were together! that always makes me feel sooo much better. =D good luck!