Who should make contact first?

It would be best for the feelings of both people if the person who did the breaking-up called first. Sometimes the person who was dumped contacts the other person out of desperation, or tries to force them back into a relationship, which is bad. The exception is if the dumped person accepts that the relationship is over and only wants to become friends. In that case, it may be better for the dumped person to call so that the person who did the dumping doesn't have to explain why he's changed his mind about the situation.

So, sort of complicated, but. Best possibility of a relationship? Dumper calls dumpee. Best possibility of friendship? Dumpee calls dumper. But your mileage may vary.

Well, if you're truly friends then it doesn't matter who starts the communication.

If this is a situation where we use "friends" as another way of checking up on the other, then of course it will matter.

Probably should think about what the word "friends" means if it's a pressure game to see who calls first. Oh and by the way, in this case, calling first means you fold first. Again, if you're really friends, you're not folding anything when you call. Savvy?

Sometimes when people break up it kind be good never to talk again. But in some cases its great the still have the person in your life. So if someone stills wants to be friends just tell them because you never know maybe the other person is to scared to ask. It depends on the reason for breaking up if its good to be friends or not. If the reason is because of something bad like cheating, good luck.
But if its because you both just don't feel that spark, just stay friends.

-Thomas.

I'm in this situation myself. My ex wants to be friends with me but I feel other wise not to be. How can someone that's in a relationship and has done things with their partner look at them as friends? It's impossible. You will probably see pictures of your ex online or run into them at places and see them with someone new. Which you will be filled with jealously and anger.

You will do anything to get back with them, but they feel different in most cases. Your heart feels different from your brain (logic). You shouldn't be worried about waiting for him to contact you because you will be ending up hurting yoyourself just by waiting. I know this because I still wait for my phone to ring even though it never does.

I think it varies, depending on the two people, the relationship, etc. It's best to take some space before two people wish to be friends from a breakup. I think pride and fear get in the way of people initiating contacts with the other. I say if the person feels the urge to initiate contact and it is respectful to the other person, the person should just do it, instead of, thinking about who should contact first. This quote reflects what I am trying to say, "You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result." - Mohandas Gandhi