He won't leave me alone!?

Because I don't know everything, I need to know something.

How does a person, grab your hand against your will and put it down there pants, without some HUGE red flag going off?

In a car no less! He's sitting, and you are too. For arguments sake, we'll say he had his seatbelt off. In order to accomplish this, at a minimum he would have unzipped his pants. So after doing that, which should have been a sign to you (Like, STOP THE CAR, I'M GETTING OUT!), he then grabs your hand for a SECOND time on this trip. He then manipulates it so it can smoothly enter his pants.

You're telling me you didn't try to stop this ONCE?!?!?!?!?

Look, you want to get rid of this guy, stop going places with him. If he shows up and you thought that he wasn't invited, excuse yourself from the event and go home. And if you come into contact with him that involves him entering your personal space (ie, HAND GRABBING!), pull away from him and tell him in a stern tone, under no circumstances is he to put his hands on you!

You're doing two thing here. One, your failure to enforce the rules you have set, you're leading him on. Yes, there is something strangely wrong with this guy, and his version of being lead on by a girl is twisted, but just the same you are playing his game by not doing anything.

Second, you are making yourself the victim. You're letting him do whatever he wants, and walk right over you and the boundaries you have set. He now thinks he can do whatever he wants. You need to eliminate him from your presence, period. This takes priority over any friends party, no exceptions. That's the only way to fix this idiot.

And as a side note, where I live, if a law enforcement officer had been made aware of this little hand game this guy played, he'd be in jail awaiting trial for sexual assault, where he would be found guilty and and then he'd have a new official title, SEX OFFENDER! And his new occupation would be to escape his neighbors. So he wouldn't have time for anymore hand games.

Stay away from this creep. He's dangerous for sure.

He is using you. He wants to see if you be his ex-girlfriend with benefits but he doesn't want a real relationship with you.

You are doing the right thing by respecting yourself and attempting to stay away from this jerk. You need to do a better job though and not let yourself be alone around him and certainly not let him think that he can touch you. He thinks he has some type of power over you that you won't be able to resist him.

I would definitely say if you hooked up with him it would be for just his benefit. You would feel awful, used and confused afterward. Don't do it. Stay as far away as possible and let your friends know to that you don't want to hang out with him and certainly not drive around in a car with him - under any circumstance.

It is for the best and in time you will see that. You won't get mixed up in all the mess he is trying to create and you'll be available for a real relationship with a grown up man.