So here's me story bare with the length. My boyfriend dumped me about 2 months ago. He said he didn't feel "it" anymore. Only a week before we had an deep conversation about how he felt he made me unhappy and that he felt he wasnt deserving of me, because I was so good to him but I felt unappreciated. He said he always felt guilty being around me because of it. He said he felt that he only made me unhappy but he would try his hardest to change things, but if he didn't feel it was working, the best thing for both of us would be to split.a week later that's exactly what happened.
Truth is, I was unhappy, but not with him, I was clincally depressed, and have been most of my life, and right b4 the break up I got diagnosed and given antidepressents. Now I couldn't be better. See the thing is when we first met, I wasnt depressed at the time, then half way into the relationship, I became depressed and changed into a completely different person, he even noticed. But neither of us knew I was depressed, so he blamed my sadness on himself and then since I didn't have a reason to give him for being sad, I followed suit and began blaming him too. (the whole I feel unappricated thing, I accused him of cheating, didn't trust him.basically I was paranoid he didn't love me, and I told him that)
So when we broke up, he told me how much he cared for me and always will, he cried perfusely during it all, something I've never seen him do. Told me it would break his heart to see me with anyone else, said we'd always be close like we were just not as a couple, that he wouldn't move on to another gir for a long time. you know all that stuff, but said that his guilt kept him up everynight for 3 weeks (exact time my depression came up) and that for his own conscience he had to end it. He was kind to me after the break up, it was my birthday a few days later, he took me to dinner, bought me gifts.then a few weeks later he was cold as ice, called me crazy, said I was a drama queen, tried to make me jealous.and we haven't spoken since. He just recently deleted me as a friend on facebook, I've been posting lots of pictures and commenting all the time on them, something he would get updates about.and theyre always pics of me out in the clubs, with other guys sumtimes.people are saying he only deleted me now after 2 months because it was hard for him to see all those pictures, especially one of me and another ex.
So after that novel I just wrote I wanted to know, how can I get into contact with him again, maybe establish a good banter back and forth, then tell him about my depression. I feel really guilty that he felt responsible for everything, when he wasnt. Truth is I really want him back, but I know, I know, if he doesn't want me back there's nothing I can do to make him, but still, clearing up all this may help a little I think, and will help me with my guilt and his. He still has me as a contact on MSN, didn't delete me or block me there. So plz help me out! =(
Update: sorry I posted this in more then one forum, but I'm just desperate for answers, so sorry if you read this twice! =S
3 months ago
The problem is, he doesn't sound too receptive at this point.
It may be best that you just move on from him. If he contacts you, that would be one thing, but I would say move forward, hard as it may be, and now that you know yourself better, you can be a better partner for someone in the future.
it will not clear anything up, seriously. sounds like way too much drama. he's an ex for a reason.
i'd say a year or so down the road, when you are with someone else, then its ok to get the healthy banter back, but in the mean time its been too short of a time period.
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