Should I break it off with the man I love because he does not want to admit to anyone else that he loves me. He will tell me one night that he loves me, then the next time I see him he'll say he wouldn't be too broken up about it if I got a different boyfriend. I'm so confused, it feels like I'm on a roller coaster ride. I love him, I want him and I want to be with him, but he just keeps me strung along without making a commitment. We have been seeing each other for almost 2 years, and it's still casual, and that's the way he says he wants to keep it.
It sounds like he has specifically stated how far he is willing to take the relationship.
It's possible he has been hurt before, and enough that he is not willing to commit the way you would like him to.
It's important for you to know that it is not your fault, or anything you are doing. He feels this way for his own reasons from his own experiences. He has the right to feel that way, and as long as he's been honest about what he is willing to do from the start, then he's done his part.
However, if you are not happy with the relationship, and you are not feeling fulfilled, then it is probably best that you end your relationship with him. He has stated that he is only willing to go so far.
You have to look at what you want here. You want a commitment and it doesn't look like he's going to give it to you. If you two have been together for two years without a commitment, I doubt that there is much more you can do in order to inspire such a connection. It is in you're best interest to move on. You two want different things and niether of you will get what you want if you hang around.
He sound inmature and unble to cope with your relationship, or indeed any relationship. The "I don't want to admit I love you" is a red flag sign of a problem relationship." Please don't think you can change him, if you could change him, it would have happened already You've already given this bloke 2 years of your life, its time to say enough is enough and bail, then put it down to experience.
Go and find yourself a partner you deserve. And by deserve, I mean one, who's prepared to admit his feeling to you and allow your relationship to develope.
I think you should break it off. It will be heart-wrenching and painful but you deserve better. Love is not supposed to hurt this badly. Yes, love can be painful but it doesn't have to be.
You should be with a man who loves you the way you love him, a man who deserves you.
Accept nothing less.it'll hurt more in the long run if you stay with a guy who treats you this way.
hmmm.its either he's playing around.or he's just 2 macho 2 admit it (sm guys think admitin their true feelings shows how weak they r). in both cases you have 2 talk wth him abr it .be honest and straight forward.tell him that you need 2 know where 2 stand?.what do you mean 2 him?.u need a commitment.r you his girlfriend or not!.does he want you or not?.want you as girlfriend or just sm 1 2 pass time and toy wth?
am sorry dear but if he kept that "i don't care if you get on wth sm1 else" you better step up a level into ur life and move on .i know its hard.u love the guy.but still.u're getting no where wth him.how long do you plan 2 keep up wth this kind of indefference?
almost every guy on earth no matter how much they denny it they know exactelly what we need in a relationship .commitment.commitment.n commitment.its almost everything 2 us.how can you go on wth a guy wthout the slightest feeling of security?or even certinety? u might waste most of ur life just waiting 2 be sure,.or claiming that u're sure of his feelings 2 you ! dont waste anymore of ur years on him.talk 2 him.if he's up 2 it?.up 2 admitting (really admitting that he loves you not just sm word he says 2 calm you dwn) and commiting 2 this relationship? then that's it finally you got what you want .u got ur guy but if not.u should definately break up wth him and move on wth ur life away .n so far from such selfishness
Well, the truth is.if you want to be in a committed relationship and he's obviously not interested in one, then you should break it off before you get more hurt and waste more time. If he loved you, he would want the world to know and he would want to be with you. I know it's not what you want to hear.but it's probably what YOU already know and don't want to admit. We're all there right now in one way or another!
I say communicate with him before you make that decision. Tell him what you are telling us and tell him everything that is on your mind. You don't want to make a decision that you end up regretting. If you really do love him, explain to him how you feel about it and if he still acts the same, then I would say make the decision to end it.
I don't like to make any negative comments, but what can you say that isn't the bleedingly obvious.??? "As a 36 years old woman, after a 2 years relationship, I would like a boyfriend who's prepared to admit he loves me and and allow our relationship to develope beyond being casual." ??? - 3 months ago
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So tell me one thing, why are you on here asking for advice if you already know the answer??? - 3 months ago
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