My girlfriend and I (2 year relationship) ended 2 months ago due to us just not meeting each other's needs and fighting a lot. I believe our big issue was how we started off, (as soon as she ended it with her ex she became involved with me, which led me to trust issues, insecurity, etc, albeit the reason we broke up was to both of our issues) I am at a point now (and I have told her this) that I still want us to be back together and I miss her a ton. (it wasn't said in a needy way, just in a matter-a-fact way) I want us to give it another shot down the road but I want to make sure I am 100% on it and not just feeling lonely. She says she has felt the same way at times, depending on the day, and her concern as well is that she feels that way because she is lonely.
Obviously we both wouldn't want to get back into a relationship just because we are lonely. How do I know? How can I tell if there would ba another shot for us down the road? My friends say "move on, once its over its over".what do I do? She is the best girlfriend I have ever had, but I made mistakes and have learned from them. Serious responses only please. |(both in our late 20's)
Update: i just asked her if I could stay over because the next morning I have a work appointment near her place and she said no because she feels uncomfortable and says that SHE would be the one trying to seduce me sx. I still love her so much and miss her, help
3 months ago
if you didn't trust the person and broke up with her because of that then you'll never trust her again. unfortunally, that's the way it is. I know, because your problem is a lot like the one I have. I feel sometimes that the relationship I'm in is because I'm "lonley" and he is too (or so to speak). we have friends but having someone with you and ONLY you makes it feel more secure. I think you're both using each other and its not the time to break up. get back with her if it makes you feel better, but the more stronger and mature thing to do is just leave and stay left. don't be in a yo-yo relationship because someone is always gonna get hurt in the end.
We broke up mutually, not due to lack of trust, that was simply an issue I HAD. she says her GUT says we won't get back together but she still loves me, finds me sexy etc...so confused, I want her back, or at least I think I do. I'm told by guys that I should date, move on and see if it happens. your thoughts? - 3 months ago
Answerer
I agree with the guys. you should but what does your gut tell you when you talk to her? is she lying? or just needing attention. I tell this is guys as well as girls, don't make your self availible and desperate this puts you in a weak position. - 3 months ago
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(Age:25 to 29)
When: 3 months ago
This sounds a lot like my situation. We fought a lot because of my insecurity with his ex. My ex keeps insisting that we are too different, but in my heart I know it's because I acted completely different because of hurt, paranoia, and insecurity.I still hope for my ex to come back.but like everyone has told me.the only thing that will tell you is time. If you two are meant to be together, you will be. Work on your issue.show her the person you REALLY are. Don't talk about your relationship or how much you miss her. Just be yourself and if she loves you, she'll come back. If you love something, let it go, if it comes back, then it was really yours to begin with. Trust me, it's been a month and a I STILL cry every day.so I know how hard it is.but I'm learning that my "begging" has only made him feel like we're "fighting" which is why we broke up to begin with, so it doesn't help. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like you have been begging like I have.but the idea that you are still trying and telling her you want her back, makes he see insecurity and that's HER reason to leave. Just be patient. I hope it works out for you! Good luck!
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 3 months ago
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 3 months ago
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