Me and my girlfriend have been going out since June (talked for a year prior to that) and we loved each other dearly. Both of told each other we'd never felt this way about anyone else than each other.
Idk why I did it but for some reason I started flirting with this girl at school in the library and put my arm around her. A bunch of her friends texted her about it, and she told me tonight that she was deeply hurt and wanted to break up with me.
I know what I did was stupid, and the worst thing is I didn't even know why I did it. I loved everything about my girlfriend and the time we spent together was the best time of my life.
Should I show her how much I care about her and try to get her back as soon as possible (letter/poem saying how deeply sorry I am and how strongly my feelings are for her) or do I let it go and let a month pass by so it cools down a bit and then try to ask her for homecoming?
I'm really confused, and I would do ANYTHING to get her back. Girls some advice please.
You can't wait, or she will just get over you. You have to apologize your butt off, and tell her all the reasons why you like her, put your full heart on the chopping board and hope for the best. Even then she might still say no. And don't talk to that other girl again. Tell her how much you care and that you would do anything to get her back. and stuff like that. Again, you can't wait
I really feel like doing that. I'm not sure how to approach it though. She blocked me on IM, and when I message her from a different screen name and asked if we could talk she said she'd rather not so I let it be. If I call her phone she won't pick up cause of caller ID but I'm sure if she heard my voice she would hang up anyway. Do I just show up at her house? Would her parents send me away if they saw me? Should I write a letter/poem saying how I feel and how deeply sorry I am? I'm so confused. - 3 months ago
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Well I was thinking you could talk to her at school, and just say how deeply sorry you are, and that other girl dosn't measure up to her at all, and say how beautiful she is and stuff. But if you have the courage to show up at her house, that is another really good idea. If she answers the door, say how much you miss her, if her parents answer, and for her or if they turn you away, ask them to tell her you stopped by and tell her you miss her - 2 months ago
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Oops typo, "ASK for her or if they turn you away
and tell the parents to tell her you are sorry, not that you miss her - 2 months ago
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Well after last night it wen't pretty bad. She said some things that I don't ever want to bring up again, and I was so crushed that I couldn't even begin to say all the things I had planned to say.
She sent me a text later that said "I really liked you, but I can't trust you right now. I hope you understand." I'm not sure if that means, you f***ed up, we're never going back together or if I can take the "I can't trust you RIGHT NOW" and try again in a month or two when things have cooled down. - 2 months ago
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Ok then I would not bring it up again for a while, and until she brings it up again (if she does) don't go out with any other girls, and try your best not to talk to them as much, especially if she is around. You want to make her think that you no connections with any other girls. But still talk to her. - 2 months ago
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We're talking again on a regular basis on IM, and I chatted with her at school briefly this afternoon. Asked her if she wanted to get lunch with me tomorrow but the school choir has a pizza party thing going on. I'm not sure if I should be celebrating that she didn't say flat out "no" or if that's me just imagining how I wish things would be. - 2 months ago
Well to tell you the truth that was pretty low of you to flirt with another girl like that. but hey I can't realy judge you because I'm a huge flirt even though I have a boyfriend (we trust each other, and we realy dnt care if we are flirts) anyways just let her know how you feel and that even though you guys are going out you still need to have friends that are girls.
I don't even know why I did it. I didn't even like the girl that much and the relationship I was having with my girlfriend was the best time of my life. - 3 months ago
Answerer
Well you got to let her know that just tell her what you realy felt. Let her know you have never done anything that stupid before nor you won't again. - 3 months ago
Question Asker
If I talk to her about it wouldn't that just keep picking at the wound in her heart. Wouldn't it be best to just not talk about and slowly try to build on a regular friendship again? - 3 months ago
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Well you can do that but then she's going to think ur trying to avoid it. why not ask her and if she seems uncomfertable you know not to go any further - 3 months ago
That is a good point, maybe you should tell her that you just wanted to let her know that you are so sorry but don't want to hurt her anymore and will stop if she wants its, but tell her you still love her - 2 months ago
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