My ex boyfriend and I have had a hard time communicating since we broke up and now we don't speak or see each other at all. He was pushing me away and now that I've finally kept away, I find I've been so hurt my fear of rejection or his responses doesn't allow me to communicate or be around where he is. I still care for him though and he may not realize it anymore. I don't feel I should contact him or be in sight of him in anyway, he continued to push me away. He may be too scared of his emotions with me which were very strong, but then again he seemed to make me feel the relationship had run its course. I'm so confused. One minute I think he may miss me and another minute knowing his pattern, I think he may not. He has never had someone like me in his life before who is deep, sensitive, and truly cared for him. I don't hear from him or see him and I would like a sign of some kind, could he be reacting the same?
How long was the relationship for? Was this breakup mutual? Not everyone wants to be friends after a breakup, they want to forget and move on. There must be reasons why you two broke up in the first place.
If he's not interested to be friends, he's not interested, why do you keep pursing or reaching out to him?
We were seeing each other for 3 years. It became too close and scared him. He started backing off and wanting to be friends. I had a hard time with that because I still had strong feelings for him and we were so close it was very difficult for me to act as though I didn't know him so deeply. We have tried to stay friends but now it just talking very shallow about current events. We have just recently stopped talking completely after emaling all day last week. We both backed off, I miss him! - 3 months ago
Well, I guess I have to question WHY you believe that he still misses you and cares about you. Is there something he said to make you believe that? The way you've told your side, it seems as though he is no longer attempting to contact you and has really not shown an interest of making things work. Unfortunately, I have to advise you to move on. I'm sorry and I know that's not what you want to hear, but it doesn't seem as though he feels the same way. BUT, to be fair, if it hasn't been too long, you may have not given him enough time to miss you or to think about his decision. Give it time.if it's meant to be, he'll be back. But in the meantime, don't wait around for him. Good luck!
It is confusing to me. It's very difficult to realize you can become so very close with someone and so very comfortable then it's all gone. Is there a possibility that we both still have such strong feelings for each other that we're both afraid of being hurt or rejected so we are in a stalemate right now. He may wish for me to contact him and I know I wish he would contact me. Fear of rejection is the worse feeling. Thank you for your answer, patience is not one of my best assets. :D - 3 months ago
he's probably just lonley, and he's using you for attention. if you broke up, its done. break-ups are pretty serious and there's no going back. the worst thing to do is go back. on the other hand, he may just be un-emotional and its hard for him to show it. he will show you his true feeling, as I think he already did, so just let it go. you can also just have a serious talk with him, but that will just make it seem like your weak and can't go on.
Lonely and unemotional are to consider. Just very hard to have been so close and had come to know each other so well, then to have it gone completely. Since we came to know each other so well I felt it was time to work on the issues that could make our relationship stronger. Unfortunately, he it became too close, and it scared him. It's sad we can't find common ground to be able to enjoy each other again. Thank you. - 3 months ago
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No prob, sometimes it happens that way. but, to "loose a relationship so fast, but been together for awhile" is kinda fishy to me too. maybe he already had somthing in my when you guys got in a fight, and finally went forward with it when the eggshells were breaking. - 3 months ago
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