ok I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago because he was selfish sexually. Everything else was perfect but this was a big prob. he wouldn't do anything to please me. I had even asked for foreplay and he continuously ignored me. The day we broke up, I was already angry because of the whole no foreplay thing and then this dude asks for some head, which pissed me off even more because he refuses to return the favor. All my anger and frustration suddenly came out at once I said in text message " I can't deal with you selfishness anymore. we need to break up. You won't even give foreplay. I am fed up and I just can't deal with this shit anymore". After two days, I think about what I siad and realized maybe I hsould have tried one more time to explain how I feel inside about this whole thing. I text him to come to my place and lets talk calmly. I tell him I am not going to yell or blame him for anything. He is like " why do I need to come over, you said you didn't want me anymore". I was like " I never said I didn't want you, I said I felt neglected and alone because you weren't listening to me or trying to please me." he's like " well you said we needed to break up so that means you don't want me". meanwhile, I am getting angrier because I am trying to be nice and he keeps making things difficult for me. i tell him " I just felt like he just gets on top and f's me and falls asleep and doesn't care about how I feel or want" .he wa slike " well its not working then". I was like "wow, you really don't care about me .i thought we had a unique connection, thought you cared about me, and I was begining to fall in love with you". he was like " I really do care but sometimes you surprise me". whateer that means? .anyways I am starting to feel like it was my fault.but then half of me is like what does he expect, he doesn't listen to me, when I tried to mend things and talk about it, he gets all angry as usual. And plus, expecting someone to do for you what you refused to do for them IS selfish. Why is he so upset? I thought when I contacted and explained everything we would understand? I am so tired of chasing this guy, but also tired of missing him.i need advice NOW please
He's upset because you dumped him and now he can't have sex with you. Go with your instinct on this one. You dumped him because he didn't care to make you happy of what you wanted. Why do you care if he's mad at you? Are you planning to get back together with him? If you are it will just tell him that you're ok with him treating you how he wants to treat you. Doesn't that defeat the original purpose?
Lol......well I was hoping that me dumping him would be a wake up call, and he would realize his selfishness. I care if he's mad , because I broke up wit him because of the selfishness, not because I don't care about him anymore. I want to get back together if and only if he realizes his wrong and changes, that's why I tried to talk it out (so he can understand that I care but won't put up with this), if he doesn't change I KNOW I will be unhappy with him so there is no point of getting together - 3 months ago
Have you ever sat him down and asked him why he isn't into giving you pleasure? No one likes to be told they suck in bed. Plus the way you went about it was a bit rash. His feelings are hurt. Breaking up with someone over sex is never a good thing. However, sex is a pretty important element in a relationship. I would attempt to talk to him one more time and apologize for being so brash. If he refuses to talk then that's that and you will need to move on from this relationship.
well, all I can say is that maybe he doesn't know how to please you. he might have been a little nervous. he might not have any idea about what to do. but then again he may just be an asshole. I think that you should try to tell him again, and if that doesn't work, then try to get over him. but if it does, then maybe you should show him what you want out of it.
The thing is I can't even talk to him, because he gets angry when I mention it. The night before I broke up we were being intimate and I asked him to play with my breasts, he ignored me, finished up, and went in the living room to play on MY laptop. I was so angry......i didn't even want to sleep with him that night. part of me knows he's selfish and won't ever change, but part of me misses the other things we had - 3 months ago
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Well then, I think that maybe you just need to try and get over him. I know that that isn't really all that helpful, but I think that my help. get another bf. make him realize how much he misses you. you never know. he may come crawlin back. - 3 months ago
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