Okay, my boyfriend broke up with me and I was okay with it. I just didn't feel the same way I did before. I still care for him, but its not love anymore. Were still friends, but I'm just not heartbroken that were done. I did feel sorta bad, but that's cause he started feeling bad and he misses what we have.
Though he cheated on me once, I forgave him and took him back. Second, he started to neglect me and never gave me a reason, not until I got upset and confronted him with it.
He rarely apologized when he would do something wrong. And many times I was the one to patch things up when something when wrong between us
After all of this, I am done, but now he's angry at me cause I'm not walking around missing him and trying to patch things up again.
Dont I have a right to be happy now I'm that I'm single again? And not going through this? Some of my friends thing I'm being cold hearted, but I don't think so. What do y"all think?
I think that you are doing the right thing bye not making it such a big deal. Maybe it will make him appreciate you more in the long run. Maybe it was just not meant to be and its a good thing that your not mopping around trying to get him back and all that I think that it takes a strong person to do that. If you want him back though I would keep playing the I don't care game and let him come back to you instead of you morning about it to him.
ur not cold hearted.
ur doing the right thing, don't let it get to you!
Thanks =) It really wasnt meant to be, we went through so much and it hurt a lot for both of us. We will be better off just being friends or nothing at all. - 3 months ago
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That is so true . I feel yah on that one just don't take it too hard because sometimes people come in are life to make us learn new things even if we don't understand what they are my grandpa always told me that everyone comes in are life and out for a reason ! I hope I have helped you - 3 months ago
You are not being cold hearted at all. Tell me if I'm wrong but you probably have emotionally broke up with this guy long before this most recent one. After all these cheating, neglect and unhappy times together, unconsciously you have already detached yourself from him. So when the break up came along officially, it was actually a relief for you as you have already broke up with him long ago.
He on the other hand have no clue about your feelings and unhappiness and thus the break up came as a shock to him. Granted, he probably is the one who ask to break up but guys at this age rarely mean them and probably mentioned them at the heat at the moment. Don't believe me? Look at him. He is now angry that you are not missing him etc. Guys who truly ended their relationship don't give a damn about their exes' reactions and behaviour.
Neither of you are wrong really. Well, you could have discussed this at length sometime during the realtionship about how unhappy you are because of all the obvious problems but what been done is done. Your ex boyfriend however in his own funny way does feel deeply for you though. We all know girls are far more mature at your age group than boys and it sounds like your boyfriend is of the macho boy mentality. That usually settle down sometime after 26 years of age.
You need to decide after knowing now that beneath all those anger, he actually care a lot about you, albeit in a very caveman manner, can you envisage yourself being with him? Is all the passion really gone? If you really cannot bear to be with him (you do not need to justify them to anyone but yourself) then just tell him it is over and get on with your life. He will be very upset, trust me and although you are no longer romantically related to him, there is no need to be unkind to make thing worse for him (you have been on the receiving end of unkindness before and knew it is not nice). If you think there is still some feelings for him, talk to him and outline conditions that he must adhere to before going back to him for the last time. Any breach of promise then it is over.
Don't engage in any relationship with other guys at the moment. If someone happen to come along, even if he is really the right one, if you are truly a decent person/ want good quality relationship tell him to wait while this storm blow over.
He knew all about my feelings and where I stand now. He's still can't believe I can just move on. But your right, I already had detached myself from him. I guess I needed to break up in order to understand that. I care for him but asa friend. He knows I don't love him anymore. - 3 months ago
no I think it's ok.i'd be feeling ok 2.but I might feel bad not caz am missing him or smth.but caz I wasted so much time wth such a guy
i think u're blocking ur real emotions.but it's ok it's gonna cm out sooner or later.the important thing z that u're done wth it .n that you did what's best 4 you finally.u certainly need sm1 much better.commited and loyal.so don't care abt what he's so mad abt u're not his girlfriend anymore.n ur friends.hmmm.maybe thy're just worried abt those blocked emotions when they'r gonna finally cm up how and what it would be.
so it's ok 2 cry or feel bad really.dont think you have 2 hide anything.if you don't miss him its ok.i guess there's nthn 2 miss.but told you if I were you I'd at least cry a little and be upset just wasting so much time forgiving and giving chances.trying 2 work thingz up.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 3 months ago
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