Ok well my girlfriend recently broke up with me because I was flirting with this other girl in one of my classes. I don't deny it and this isn't about that, so please don't answer with "you suck."
I've been doing EVERYTHING to get her back and she texted me this morning saying: "I really liked you Nick, but I can't trust you right now. I hope you understand that."
Ok so I'm not sure how closely girls pay attention to the exact wording they say stuff in. In particularly the "I really LIKED" implies that she doesn't like me anymore. But then "I can't trust you RIGHT NOW" could mean that she just wants to give it time before giving it another shot. Am I just taking things too literally because if I were having to tell someone I don't trust them the "right now" part isn't the first thing that pops into my head.
Someone bring me back to reality, because I think I'm just going mad from the breakup.
Update: BTW she's initiated conversation with me over IM for the past 3 days now, so I don't think she's completely over me,for now at least. . I'm not really sure how to react. Does she expect to talk about "us" more or just be normal and chat like we used to?
3 months ago
Update: So far so good I guess. We've been talking about random stuff for like an hour now and she only told me to shut up once when I brought on a touchy subject about her sis (she never says shut up in a playful way).
3 months ago
She's still evaluating her emotions, I think. That's basically what I get from it. I'll put myself in her situation and you can see if it'll help at all: By saying "I really LIKED you," I would mean that I cared about you a lot, but the betrayal is making me question whether it's worth it. And "I can't trust you RIGHT NOW" would mean that I'm still hurt and my trust in you has been broken, but I'm seeing if I'll be able to trust you again eventually. Basically that it's still the aftershock from what happened and I would still need time to think. Well keep in mind those would be MY thoughts and it could be way off lol, but that's just what I take all of that to mean. Just let her take her time to decide what's best for her. All you can do is be there for her, show her you really care, and don't force anything on her. :]
Thanks, that's what I was thinking too, but I wanted to check up with you guys to make sure I wasn't imagining what I wanted things to be. - 3 months ago
Aww you guys still haven't gotten back. No you didn't cheat on her you were just making conversation with another girl in a friendly way. Well you can start it off resh and just be her friend right now and MAKE her want you.
I'm hoping we can be on good enough terms that come next month I can ask her to homecoming without getting the horrified "I thought we were over this" glare from her. - 3 months ago
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Well I you must just tell her you will go as friends. And if she hasn't really orgived her dnt go flirting with other girls until you are sure you have no chance with her - 3 months ago
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I didn't even dance with any other girl at the dance yesterday and brought some glowsticks and just had fun with my guys friends, so she wouldn't be made and think I was over her. - 3 months ago
You basically cheated on her, so give her time. And yes, she obviously means what she said. She used to like you, but now she feels you're not worthy as a boyfriend due to trust issues. Take a step back and give her the room she deserves.
I get that, but does the "I can't trust you right now" also means that she's open to giving me another chance if I can prove myself to her in the coming months? - 3 months ago
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Maybe. Maybe not. You should know better than anyone here how she feels, assuming you've actually talked about this more than the one sentence you've told us... - 3 months ago
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The thing is she cut off all communication with me initially and anytime I bring it up she just goes with some one liner of "too late" which totally isn't her way of talking. She refuses to meet me in person, so when I pulled her aside at a dance last night it wasn't really the place to give my "im sorry" speech with the music drowning out my voice. She seemed really ticked off and just blew me off before giving me a hug. - 3 months ago
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Then give her time. I know you want to think about winning her back, but you should let her breathe before you try. - 3 months ago
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Well it's weird, cause I'm talking to her now and it's just like we used to talk. I don't even wanna mention anything about the relationship or what happened because I'm afraid she might think talking to me was a bad idea. I wrote her a poem in a book that I dropped off at her house today (just left it there, cause I thought she didn't want to see me after last night), but she said it was really sweet so now I don't know what to think. - 3 months ago
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You're thinking too hard. You do realize that she's acting normal for someone who has been cheated on, right? You need to calm down. If she's being nice to you again, then isn't it obvious that maybe she's starting to forgive you or is considering giving you a second chance? Not sure what else you could possibly think is going on. She was mad, she ignored you, and now she's starting to talk to you again. No surprise there buddy... - 3 months ago
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I really hope your right for my sanity's sake. She means more than the world to me. - 3 months ago
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