Mixed emotions?

What you're doing sounds good so far. You're standing up for yourself, maintaining your dignity, and not contacting him. Good for you!

Only he knows why he's acting this way and I doubt you'll ever really find out, so you can either worry about it based on speculation, or you can forget about him and start taking care of your own life (although it sounds as if you're already doing that).

Keep up the good work! Other people on here could use your story as an example of how to keep their head when they run into their ex!

I got hit a little while ago with a trouble some situation, and I wasn't dating this person or anything.

I STILL want to scream. I want to shake my "friends" by the collars and scream DON'T YOU GET IT?!" but they never will, and I can't expect everyone to get it. Sometimes they have to find out for themselves. Some never do, but that can't be my fault.

But, then, I've also been in the role of "horrible ex boyfriend."

I'll tell you why I handle things with the ex in the way that I do.

My ex, she hates certain people, then she suddenly loves them and wants to be their best friend. I treated her really well when we were dating, but she was so angry most of the time (and took it out on me), that she didn't really realize this or appreciate it.

We'd break up, then she'd realize that I was pretty great to her, and she'd calm down and want to try dating me again. During those periods where we weren't dating, she was pretty cool.

Needless to say, it didn't work out the way I was hoping. We dated, then we stopped, and tried friendship. I discovered she was talking about me behind my back (again, during this so called "friendship"), and she suddenly stopped all contact with me.

I was frustrated with her for it, because I hadn't done a thing to deserve it, (other than breaking it off with her a while before). A week later, she wanted me to come visit her. I told her that I found out she had written a very nasty blog about me, and I wasn't going to traipse around the area for her when I'm made out to be the worst boyfriend and friend possible in the history of mankind.

I've forgiven her for that. Forgetting is a different issue entirely. I try to say something nice to her from time to time over myspace, but I actually try to leave her alone most of the time. She needs time to hate me, to be angry with me, and then to grow from it. Part of me realizes that I'm the nasty villain in this saga, though I always treated her with love and respect. I understand that need for her to made me the villian, to a degree. But I don't have to be friends with her while she'd lying about me.

Part of me wants her to know I still love her as a Christian, and that I'm not angry with her. The strange thing is, she wants to be my myspace friend, then she deletes anything I write to her.

I wish her the best, but frankly, if she's ignoring me and playing games, then I have to kind of leave her behind, though I hate doing it. I don't like the idea of ignoring someone but sometimes it's got to be; for both their well being and yours.

Now, I'm not saying you've acted as my ex does, but I'm saying that, as a guy, I sort of understand how this guy MIGHT be thinking.

Breakups can hurt. But they can also be a catalyst for some great things. I know that's of little consolation to you right now, so all I can do is give you my advice, and wish you the best during tough times like this.

just give him some space is what id say and if he really wants you he will be back;

It's like, "hey I'm sorry I broke up with you". He felt guilt 'coz he knows your sad. That's it. And your still mad about that. After refusing on the things he offers you, now he's like "If you don't want to make friends with me, I don't care". Me and my ex was just exactly like that. But were ok now. I hope you guys can fix that up.

I really feel for you. I just went through a similiar situation, and the resulting pain is anything but durable. It's a pain so horrific, nobody should have to deal with it; nobody should ever have to experience or handle. Unfortunately, 99.9% of us do.

Friends who don't want to hurt your feelings will tell you that "You're too good for him" or "You deserve way better. It's his fault; his loss." As true as these all are, don't try and tell yourself that now. It suppresses the hurt that shouldn't be suppressed. I know.

My advice to you- Just cry. Don't worry about trying to forget him. You can't "purposely" forget someone. Cry.

Don't accept his feeble attempts at trying to make things "okay" between the two of you. They're petty. Just cry.

Don't waste your time by noticing how he fails to notice you. Cry,

i agree with lost-angel this is going to be hard but do anything to keep yourself busy so you can move on. If you run into him again, be nice say hi but make it a short conversation! He probably is thinking the same thing as you are when you run into each other. keep your head up, you will move on soon, hope I helped

Everyone feels this way after a break up. We all just deal with it differently.
Your ex is just trying to be playful maybe. Or trying to act like he is "ok". I mean, you were acting "ok" infront of him too, wernt you? But whatever his reasons are for acting the way he is, just ignore em. Well, at least try.
As for you. Spend a couple of days crying over him. Just let all the pain and anger out. Its good to cry once in a while. Just recall everything about him. All the good times, and the bad. Scream if you have to. Let it all out now. If you keep it inside and try to distract your feelings, the pain will just creep up on you later on. Trust me. Keep those crying days to a limit though. LIke, 2 days or so, and then start cleaning up. Put everything he gave you, or anything that reminds you of him, in a box, and keep it in the closet, or somewhere where it won't be too easy to get. Start re-arranging your room, or anything. Start new. Remind yourself its over. Don't go back to those thoughts anymore. You had 2 days to do that. So now focus on the future. On life without him. Don't blame yourself, or try to analyze what happened, and don't think of the WHAT IF'S or MAYBE -- just move on. Don't expect to hear from him either. Just keep busy. Make a lot of plans, so you have something to look forward to. It really helps.
There will be days when you miss him, and you want to cry again. Its ok. Just call a friend. talk to them. Or have them talk about their problems. It will distract your thoughts from being lonely.
Something that might help. When you find yourself missing him, think about all the things about him you don't like. That you can't live with. Those thoughts will help you realize you are better off.
And when you get the chance, buy a journal. Write it in when you feel angry, or when you feel sad. Sometimes the only way to get rid of certain feelings is by letting it out. And a journal will let you do just that.

It might be hard now, but you will be ok. :)
Everything happens for a reason.

You realy need to stop crying over him. He is not worth it Just forget about him and start dating new people