My boyfriend broke up with me two days ago his Bday is tomorrow but I already was planning a surprise party on the same day he left but I had to ruin the surprise & tell him that I planned a birthday party when he didn't show up I went to his place and gave his Bday gift to his sister & he told her to tell me that he didn't take it, she told me that he kept it but still didn't open it, I just wanted him to know how much I cared and make him feel guilty that he was thinking of breaking up with me at the same time I was planning for something special to make him happy.,I only want to know if it meant something at all for him or if he even gonna open his birthday gift. Will he appreciate or even call to say thanks after a while?
Well he knows that you still care for him and are probably very hurt by the break up althought I don't think it's fair to want him to feel guilty for breaking up with you (or about the party he didn't know about). Which I think is selfish of you to want him to feel that way. Yes you are hurt but respect his decision, somewhere along the lines he decided that the relationship isn't working.
All the actions of "can't you see how much I care for you?" isn't going to win him back. He knew that when you were together and he didn't feel the same.
Maybe later down the road, he'll thank you for the times you had together but if I were you, I'd just mend the heart until you're emotionally ready for any contact with him.
Ur words are very disappointing thus very wise and true at the same time. but I didn't mean to be selfish that's not what I meant when I said that I wanted him to feel guilty, I just hoped he would put it into consideration and at least thank me for trying to make him happy till the very last moment. - 3 months ago
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Right now, he's just glad he did it and is riding it out. Avoiding you at all cost. It may sound cold but it's the best way for you to get over him.
Lets say he calls and thanks you... you know that the conversation will intensify from there and you long for more contact as you do miss him.
The faster you can move on, the better off you'll be and better chance you'll have to re-uniting with him if that's a possibility.
Be strong, buy some clothes and hit the gym. those are great reme - 3 months ago
He appreciates what you did. But he won't admit it. Right now he is probably being an a**hole towards you to make it easier for you to get over him. Or, maybe that is just the way he really is. Cold hearted. Im sorry for how you are feeling right now. I almost know how you feel. I mean, you did everything you could for him, and yet he treated you this way. It hurts. But showing him how much you care, and how no other woman could love him the way you do, will not make him come back to you. It might even just push him away even more. To answer your question. He really appreciates what you did, and probably feels bad right now for being a jerk. If not now, he will realize it someday. There will be times he will want to call or email to say "thank you and I'm sorry". But don't expect it. A girl like you should be spending all that love and effort on a man who truly appreciates it. So, just be happy that you got to show him how special he is to you, and move on. If we give from our hearts we shouldnt expect anything in return. Save it for the man who truly deserves it.
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