So, my ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago. At first I did the begging thing and he'd just keep telling me that he loves me, but we don't get along well enough and he doesn't think it will work in the long run. But, the thing is, he can never really say we're over forever. I finally stopped calling and begging about 2 weeks ago. We haven't really talked as much, but we work together, so I see him Mon-Fri. I kinda broke the other day at work and started crying. because he had gone out the past two weekends and I felt like he wasn't even hurting.he wrote me an e-mail and said that he misses me and cares about me and is having a really hard time, but that he only goes out to keep his mind occupied. Today he went to the beach with his family, so I won't see him until Tuesday and I won't call him.but if he doesn't write me a text or call, does that mean he's moving on? He says he isn't moving on, but how do I know when he IS?
Dont call him. He is probably confused right now. Dosnt know if he should work it out with you, or let go. I suggest you give him space. Don't call/text/email for awhile. The feelings are still there. He is confused right now, and is stringing you along (by saying he still loves you, and cares about you), so he can take you back anytime. He already knows how you feel about him. He knows you want to get back with him. Yet he continues to act this way. So he is just confused,and being alil selfish. Give him time, and if he realizes he really wants to be with you, he will make the move. As for you, I suggest you try to keep busy so you don't go crazy thinking about him and waiting for him to "make up his mind". Consider it over, so you don't wait forever, incase he never tries to get back with you.
I actually asked him to stop calling me about 2 weeks ago because I didn't want that "false hope"...and he did. He stopped telling me he loved me because he said it wasn't fair to me...but when I started crying the other day, and he said it was real hard for him too, then I have to believe the love isn't gone in 2 weeks. I would HOPE!!!! I guess I just don't understand how you can love someone the way he says he does and not want to be with them...when our problems can be fixed with some work!! - 3 months ago
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I know. I had an ex who did the same thing to me. He kept telling me he still loved me..but that he didn't know what to do. He also said things like he will always love me, etc. And he also showed that he still truly cared. I waited and hoped... but after a couple of months, I realized I didn't mean as much to him as I wanted. I found out he started going out again, and there I was, still hoping, and feeling like a fool. I don't want you to make the same mistake. - 3 months ago
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I truly believe that if the guy really loves us, he won't let us go that easily. It shouldnt be that hard to hold on and work things out. Especially if he knows how you truly feel. Dont let him string you along. - 3 months ago
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It's only about 12 days since we stopped talking on a daily basis. So, at what point do I stop hoping? I mean, I know some people go back to each other after years...but that's rare, so when is it really time to take a hint? - 3 months ago
I guess you'll know he's moving on when you start hearing from him less and less. If he's still contacting you at least you know he's still thinking about you. (that's if he's contacting you on his own.)
But, maybe he's moving on, maybe he isn't. guys are hard to read. He might just be going out with his friends to clear his head or just to chill.
If he's still contacting you though, I think it's a good sign.
Well, the hard part for me, is that we work together. He's my boss and there's 5 people in the whole office...so we have a LOT of interaction during the day...and he actually STOPPED calling me because I asked him not to. I told him it was too hard to talk to him. But, he still talks to me a lot at work...he called me on my birthday (since I took the day off) and yesterday I had to leave early and he made a sad face when I left and said "I don't like when you're not here."..so, I dunno! - 3 months ago
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See? that is a good sign. he's till talking to you. usually when people break up, they never speak again. I don't think he's just being nice - 3 months ago
he won't come and tell you "LOOK IM MOVING ON" he's just gonna do it some how. and a lot of guys can't say that its over , they would just stop calling or txt and sooner or later you would see them with a girl. you should move on too concentrate on other things.
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When: 3 months ago
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