My ex and I had been together for a year and a half. I was his first real girlfriend and the first person he ever made love to. About 4 months ago in April 2008 he broke up with me because we had been fighting a lot. Most of our fights had to do with time issues. He is involved with a majority of things on campus and therefore that took away time from our relationship, time that I wanted from him and therefore we started arguing constantly. Eventually he decided that he didn't want to put the time and effort into a relationship right now. Despite what he said, I was persistent in getting him back.Then one night, after a big argument, he told me he didn't feel the same about me and after that I decided to lose contact with him for about a month so that I could get over him. One day we got to talking about why we didn't hang out more and he said he was under the impression that I wanted nothing to do with him and at that point I assured that for a while it was but that it wasn't so anymore. He told me that he wanted me in my life and that we can work on our friendship. Ever since then, he has made a great effort to see me and hang out. But recently, it has developed more into us talking for hours on the phone at night, hanging out almost daily, him kissing me, and finally we had sex. When he kissed me we both had two beers and I know my ex he doesn't get drunk from two beers. When we had sex, I had been drinking and so was he. We constantly flirt with one another, he has brought up to me wanting a relationship that wasn't too serious( in the sense of leading to marriage) with someone who he knows cares about him and vice versa. There is no doubt in my mind that he cares for me, it is obvious and I do love and care for him also. My question is: " Are these signals that he wants me back as his girl or just as a friend?" We both haven't attempted to develop serious relationships with anyone else. We have been attracted to other people but nothing else.
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(Age:25 to 29)
When: 2 months ago
It sounds like he's taking advantage of the situation, and the fact that he knows that you are still not over him. As long as you allow him to take advantage of you he's going to. It makes him feel better, and at the same time allows him to keep his distance because you are technically "broken up". This is just my opinion, but I would bet he's not interested in a relationship, he's just interested in the fact that he knows he has someone who will always accept his advances. I know it's hard, but he's messing with you and it's not fair. Remember FRIENDS DON'T HAVE SEX. They don't- and if he wanted you as a friend he wouldn't have sex with you.and if he wanted a relationship he'd say so. Take care of yourself. Don't let anyone walk on you.
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