My ex and I broke up on Saturday, for the most part on good terms (we had compatibility issues in some major areas). I sort of initiated the talk, but he sealed the break up deal and I paniced and asked him not to break up with me. We had such a good time together and we were really in love- I just thought we needed to work on some things, and after 8 months I needed him to act as if he loved me too-instead of just saying it. I called him Sunday to see if he was ok (I had to leave a message- but that was the only time I'd have the guts to call) and he never called back. I don't want to be "that girl", so I'm leaving him alone. I'm just hurt he isn't talking to me. Any idea why?
Update: I was able to take a step back and realize that it's going to take time to be friends, and it's unrealistic at this time. I don't know what I'd say to him if he DID call, and I don't trust myself not to fall back into the getting back together trap.
2 months ago
Guys don't like to "talk". If he's not answering your calls, he's probably mad at you or just wants to break it off. If you have compatibility issues with him, why would you waste your time with him. I say give it time. Don't be desperate to answer or call him. That will just make the situation worse. Think about what your doing tho. Is this guy the one you want to be with for the rest of your life? >_<
Well, I hate to tell you this, but you did exactly what I did and it blew up in your face (as it did with me). Because of my past relationships, I was very insecure and needed to "talk" all the time and needed him to prove his love ALL THE TIME.he finally got tired of it because we just fought all the time. I actually broke up with him THREE times because I wanted him to tell me it was wrong and make me feel better about our relationship.SICK! It sounds to me like the two of you agreed on one thing, that you had problems. I think you need to do as I am doing.try to back off, give him space and work on yourself. Clearly, you have insecurity issues (please don't take offense to that) and have to work on those. I think that if you try to fix things with yourself and if you two are meant to be, it'll work out. But, you have to get YOURSELF right before you can be right WITH someone. Believe me, I KNOW, it sucks.but I think it's the best thing I believe. Good luck to you!
It could be that he in fact is hurt by the fact that you didn't think he was doing enough to prove he loved you? Maybe he thinks, "I did show her I loved her. If she doesn't see it than I guess it's not meant to be" . Perhaps he is not ready to talk with you quite yet. It's hard to know seeing as we don't know the logistics of your relationship.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 3 months ago
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