My ex-fiance left me for another guy over 5 months ago, and at first I was a devestated mess, but I eventually picked myself up and got my feet back on the ground.
Got out there, casually dated a few girls, made lots of friends, enjoying my independence, advanced my career, etc.
Then today I heard a sad song that I had listened to five months ago, and for the rest of the day I became sadder and sadder. I started feeling all that pain I felt back then and it won't go away. It makes me sad to think of how sad those days were!
What do you do to snap yourself out of one of these days?
oh my gosh I totally do the same thing! from now on if you hear that song hurry and change that song! its hard I know, but you just need to keep youself busy and try and clear your head because the more you think about it the more is eats at you.kinda like when you hurt your arm and the more you think about it the more it hurts right? and when you start doing other things like sitting around laughing with you friend, you forgot you even hurt your arm in the first place!
When sad days hit me like that, I would go somewhere where I could be alone and just let all my thoughts run. Usually I drive to the beach, park my truck on the sand, and watch the water, as I listen to music. Its very peaceful. If I feel sad to the point where I feel like crying, I go home, and just let it all out. It actually helps to let your feelings out once in awhile. Meaning, shedding a tear helps take the sadness away. I don't let it go on for long though. Maybe a couple of hours, or a day, then I put on music I like, "happy music", or I watch a comedy show/movie -anything that would make me laugh. And I'm better. Or I would go to the gym, and work out to my fave music. That usually helps, when I'm not too lazy. Another thing that I do (but I don't recommend to others) is FOOD TRIPPIN :) I LOVE food, and it always makes me happy :) It depends on the day (im feeling sad), pizza and beer, buffalo wings and beer, filet mignon and wine, lobster and wine coolers, pasta and wine, etc. I would eat out with a friend, or by myself, and it really takes the sadness away. It might be the alcohol -- but hey it works :)
One thing you should remind yourself when you get sad is that it won't last for long. Maybe the next day you will be 120% happy and hyper again. We all have those days. Some people can control it, but for those who can't --- we will have to settle with alcohol and a good movie. Wait, did I say alcohol? I meant, food ;) Smile :)
Knowing that you can still feel sad and happy, is always a good thing. It means you still have a heart, and that the right girl will come along who deserves it. It will take time, because she was after all a big part of your life so of course you will think of the past from time to time. I know everybody says this but it's true that things happen for a reason. There is someone out there who is going to make you the happiest person you've ever been and then you and your new girl will have your own new memories and new song.
is hard especially with songs out there to remind you. . but sometimes is good to hear them because you remember what you felt and the pain .it will give you the strengh to face it again and again.but at first is very hard.time will help you out, but you won't forget, .well I hope this helps
give yourself a break - it's all part of the human experience.
if you want to *do* something, exercise is a great way to combat depression; when you exert yourself you produce endorphins & that gives you a natural "high".
food (esp things like chocolate) also stimulates your body chemistry (producing seratonin, another "feel good" hormone, for example).
sometimes it's good to feel all self-indulgent in your misery: watch a good film you like & pig out on chocolate or something (although I can over-do it & get sick :P)
but if you want to snap yourself out of it, drag yourself out for a vigorous workout & that should perk you right up
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