Hi I'm Jeremy. I'm 19 years old. I live 2 hours from any family. I've was single for 1 1/2 years before I met my Meg, I like her lots =) I live with two roomies. I work at a gas station. I'm a very optimistic person. I'm very outgoing. I'm in touch with my feelings. I think a lot. I care. I like to see people smile =) I hope to travel the world. Nothing really matters to me except love. I believe love's the meaning of life. But I'm not stupid about it, as I said before I've been single for a year and a half. I'm having a little trouble and I need a little assistance please =)
Ok, so I've been seeing Meagan for a month now. We only met a few weeks before I asked her to be my girlfriend. It's seriously amazing though. From day one everything's just been too perfect. Our personalities are exactly the same, we have the same morals and beliefs. We always have fun together. We're equally crazy about eachother. We want the exact same things out of life, it's weird how our expectations of the future match up completely. I'd do anything for her and she'd do anything for me.
The problem is that we've both had horible relationship experiences in the past. We've both loved before, my relationship was 1 1/2 years and her's was 2. She says she left him because she freaked, it got real serious. My ex and I broke up because she cheated on me. So we're both going to have some damage from our past. The thing is is she's willing to work with my trust issues, I want her to have fun with her friends, but the feelings of insecurity are still there. We've gotten past this problem though.
Now the problem is that she's afraid she's going to hurt me, she's afraid we'll get so far down the road and she'll get scared and hurt me. She says she can't see me for my own sake. She also says she has never liked someone as much as me, she says I'm perfect for her. She said all that this morning along with much more that pretty much has the same meaning. She doesn't want to do it, but she likes me so much that she just has to let me go.
What should I do? There's nothing I don't like about this girl, she's never done me wrong, she's outstanding. I'm afraid to say anything, I'm afraid to put myself out there. Along with that feeling I want her to make the decision, I don't want to have to talk her into being with me, it'll be tainted love if I have to do that.
Meagan and I aren't broke up, I'm not sure what we are, it's like we're on hold. This morning I asked her "are we over?" and she just kept rambling on. Finally near the end of the conversation she asked me "what are we?" all I could say was "i don't know." It's obvious she's extremely confused. I don't know what to do, I don't know what to say.
I miss her.
Update: i wrote her a letter. and drove up to her work and put it in her car. went to the park and sat for an hour or two. She finally texted me. Asked where I was but it was too late, she was home and she couldn't leave. I didn't ask her to come see me, she
2 months ago
Update: she just wanted to. so she's comming to me in the morning. I told her only to if she's willing to go to the park. I'm hoping for the best, but expecting the worst. I feel she's going to say it's over tomorrow.
2 months ago
woah your like a super nice guy it sounds like. [dont ever change that because when you find a girl that likes the nice person that you are, then they're definitely a keeper]. anways, in life, we go through bad relationships, sometimes more than once, but you can't regret it. you have to learn from it and take things from the relationship. like you learn what to not put up with and stuff. so learn from it then you have to move on. you can't gain insecurities from it and dwell about it as time goes on. it sounds like you really care about her and she's sounds like a nice girl, so I would suggest sitting her down and explaing her that you can't let past relationships effect your current one. and if there's feelings of being hurt or something, then you can work on those things together. the love for each other will heal you if your still hurt. never be afraid to tell a girl how you feel, because you will always wonder what would have happened if you had. tell her how you feel &tell her that you want to grow with her in the relationship. you sound like you and her get along well. so don't lose that; hang on to her.
Thats exaclty what's going on with my boyfriend and I. I like him but I'm afraid of getting too serious because of my pass experiences. If you really like her understand her desicion and give her space with open possibilities. Maybe the truth is you BOTH still need to heal and its giving you time to do such. I think she does really like you she is just scared and there's nothing wrong with that. Everyones scared sometimes. That doesn't mean she doesn't want to be with you it just means you need to give her some space without fussing over it. Be more open with her and understand her feelings as you gently express yours. Sorry if I didn't help much.Im just a kid struggling with my own junk.lol
Tell her how you feel about her its the only way. Tell her the sort of things that you've just told us. She sounds like she's just scared like before but you need to open up and get her to open up aswell. With you saying you don't know were you's are would have scared her even more as that's not reassuring her everything is going well and you really care for her. Keep things simple aswell don't be rushing the relationship to much by the sounds of it you's have really got something and that's not something you want to throw away. She knwos this but you need to tell her this it's the only way she's going to get more relaxed and not be so scared.hope this helped
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