How do you get your son over a girl that doesn't want to be with him? He can't get over her no matter what I say or try to help him move on. They just broke up a few days ago so I know its going to be hard, but I feel the ex is giving him mixed signals and that's why he can't move on. HELP! I know its his business but I don't like seeing him crying all the time and so depressed because of losing her. He says its not over. He also acts like they are still together but there not.
Update: Actually, they didn't break up, us parents made them take a break because there was to much fighting between the two of them. Actually it started that her parents put a stop to it. She wanted to end it for a while because of all the arguing.
2 months ago
Update: She still wants ot be with him but only if things could change. She had cheating on him very early in the relationship and he is very insecure now because of that and doesn't trust her. But even after all that he won't let her go.
2 months ago
Update: When we stated to them that they needed to stop things for awhile so that they can be with there friends other then just them, that's what she wanted, but now she wants him knowing she can't be with him right now.
2 months ago
Us parents should have stayed out of it. With all the fighting, this break-up was bound to happen in its own time. Anything that parents make a teenager do isn't a good thing in their eyes and can make them want it all the more. I would think that he probably doesn't like you too much right now either and anything you try to do to get him over it will be seen as more manipulation to keep them apart.
He's probably got some unrequited love in his mind now. Thinking that it could have all worked out between them but their parents are keeping them apart.
He isn't mad at me because he knows I do want them together. But I now am thinking that I need to stop all comunication for good for awhile because he is so insecure because of her cheating that when he saw that she is talking to another guy on her myspace, he freaked out and says how is he suppose to make it work when all she is doing is talking with other guys. Yes it may be innocent talking that she is doing, but being he is so insecure because of her cheating, why would she talk to this guy - 2 months ago
You need to find a way to stop all contact between them. She is sending him mixed signals, and I imagine she ended the relationship. Happened to me too, same thing, she is sending me mixed signals as well.
But anyway, the best way for him to move on is to end all contact between the two. It is easy if she doesn't make an effort, if she does then it is all the harder. But you need to get him to realize it is over, but in an understanding and supportive way.
It is extremely hard getting over a broken heart, and after 3 months I am still trying, but see, my ex still contacts me and gives me mixed signals. I need to take my own advice and end everything with her.
The cruelest thing a person can do is string someone along when they have no intentions of being with them, so make sure she isn't doing that, otherwise your son is in for a long, tormenting road.
Yea, I agree, I have talked ot her about things and she says she wants to be with him but she needs her space. Her and I are really close that's why its so hard. But she also knows my son comes first and if she strings him along and hurts him I will end all contact period and she doesn't like that. - 2 months ago
It has only been few days and it takes awhile for broken hearts to heal; but you know that.
The only suggestion I can offer is to keep him busy with other things. Out to a movie, rent some movies, a sporting event, things like that. He's going to want some moping time to lament the loss and may even not want to participate in what you suggest. Heartache is one of those pains that we need to learn to deal with ourselves and time is the only healer. You can't fix it, but you may be able to distract him to allow time to pass.
welll frst of all its gunna take more then a few days. so let him mope around for awhile. its all part of the process. and mixed signals do make it a lot harder. I still had feelings for my ex months after we ended. but with each passing week it got better. what types of mixed signals is she sending him? oh and try to get him involved in other things. spirts are a good way to take out your anger and focus on something positive. or maybe clubs at the school? get him to go out and meet other people. but really crying and being depresssed for the first week or so is normal! well this is from a grls perspective but trust me he will eventually find someone new so just be there to support him
She is basically terlling him she still loves him and wants to be with him, but when she gets mad about something then she doesnt. He is in sports, but the day after the breakup, she was wearing his jersey. - 2 months ago
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