Do guys hurt after a break up?

We definitely hurt after a breakup. Especially if it is someone that we truly care about. Sometimes guys just take time after a break up that they will not talk to their X's for a while. Its kind of the out of site out of mind theory. It definitely does not mean we have moved on though. We still think about them on a regular basis and still care about them.

I think that it depends on a lot of things, but yes, we hurt.

In general, I think some of us tend to bounce back a little bit faster.

To the down side, I think we aren't allowed to show as much feeling about our relationship pain.

I remember my sister crying and bawling about a boyfriend of a few months. He was ok, but a little flakey on showing up to things. I remember her laying her head on on my mom's lap, crying.

The thing I hated was that I was "being absolutely ridiculous" when I was upset over a first girlfriend and I swore and stomped around for 5 minutes. That just seemed a little hypocritical of them.

I think that while I was over HER pretty quickly, the way she cheated, and handled the relationship was appalling; and THAT PART of the hurt is may be a lifelong issue. The way I handle future relationships are probably affected for a very long time; either for better (example: seeing warning signs faster), or worse (example: wondering if I'm being too harsh or cautious on a girlfriend if she triggers that feeling).

I think in your case, he's trying to wait and see what happens. I think that he may be trying to give you (or himself) some time to heal. Since you didn't want a friendship with him (does he know if you're convinced you now should). And, I think that some people will claim they want friendship when they don't really want one; maybe to "cushion the blow."

Make no mistake about it, guys do hurt emotionally after a break-up.

there was a girl I was in love with 9 year ago, she boke my heart, and haven't seen here since.
but its been almost a decade, and I can still smell her, and imagine her crooked nose, and her devilish grin, and then I have to count to 5 and get back to what I was doing.yea, still hurts.

I don't mean to be bitter or anything, but sometimes I think the only feelings guys have is in their penis!

I don't think they do near as much as girls, but I guess it depends if they were really in love in the first place. I suggest you stay busy. Go out with a group of girls someplace safe that you can flirt and be flirted with, maybe a dance club. If you have fun and get attention from other guys it may make it easier to move on by realizing there are other guys out there and to give you something else to think about besides him. Besides that's probably basically what's happening with him--meeting all these new girls at college. You will never forget your first love, but finding other fun things to do without him will help.

Guys are babies just like us. They rather pretent they're stronger than us! because my boyfriend and I broke up over something that I thought really was going to end us right? I told him it would be ok to be friends since he asked but at the time I didn't care he pissed me off right? So a day goes by without us talking and that has NEVER happened in history we usually talk, text, or something, You know? Well I was hurting but I was alright I had my girlfriends entertain me and cheer me up because they know he's my world ((Can't put it any other way)) and then my phone rang and it was him saying he missed me and he was sorry and blah blah blah. He couldn't believe I didn't call him.

Just some guys crack quicker than others. I hope this help

my boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago. We both decided we wanted to be friends and still talk, but I didn't hear from him for a week after we broke up. I was going to wait a while to give myself some time to get over him, plus I didn't think he honestly still wanted to be friends. but he called me the next weekend and sounded pretty sad that I hadn't called him to talk at all. The whole time I had thought that he didn't want to talk to me, but really he was just waiting for me to call him. So maybe that's what's going on with him. I'd say if you don't hear from him in the next few days just try giving him a call. good luck!

They hurt too. It'll probably take a little time for you guys to be friends again without all the awkward tensions. Reading your question brings me back all the memories during high school. I went through exactly the same thing about 5 years ago when I broke up with my boyfriend because he was going away for college 3 hours away. If you were his first, he's always going to think of you even if he doesn't call or try to reach out to you. You're always going to be in his heart.

I stayed friends with him for about 2 years. Somehow, we ended up getting back together and moved to NY. We live together now and plan on getting married. If things are meant to be, they are. But that's what I believe. For now, stay strong. It'll take a little time to heal.

This is a tough one since you guys were so closed. All I can tell you is that we as woman suffer more a breakup than the guys, at least this is what I'm experiencing right now and it is very difficult. He could be busy trying to adjust to his new life and haven't have a chance to reach out to you. Give him couple of days and if by then he doesn't, then he's probably not hurt as you wish he is about the breakup. Guys are very unpredictable!