Girls need your help to heal an aching heart?

i'm going through the same thing with a guy. but you should not let this situation overcome your emotions. stop smoking because it will not bring make things any better, it will not solve you problem. if she sees you falling apart it will turn her off and it will turn other girls off. just because she broke up with you doesn't mean it's the end of the world. you're young and you have a whole life ahead of you. right now you may feel like everythings tearing apart but there are other people going through 10 times worse, that's just how I see it and it makes me feel better.

at least she texted you a month ago to see how you are doing, that shows that she still cares, my ex who is also my soulmate has not contacted at all, so I'm sitting here going crazy because I have no idea what's on his mind.

you should still keep in touch with her if that makes you feel better. just text her once in a while to see how she's doing, if she doesn't reply back, don't plead.
it's not fair she's out there seeing someone else, having fun while you're moping around. you really need to go out and have fun. find a hobbie, do something productive, workout, improve yourself. hang with friends. don't let yourself go over a girl you love. the guy I love broke up with me and I feel the way you do, but I realzed giving up on myself and moping around will not make things better for me. focus on yourself and bettering yourself, maybe you will attract another girl you might be interested in, who knows! but life is about having fun, improving youself and "exploring".

if you talk to her again don't show that you are weak. be friendly with her.

again, I am going through what you are, but with a guy. I think about him everyday, dream about him and I have a hard time sleeping too. he will always be in my mind and my heart but I cannot become an emotional wreck because of him while he's out having a good time. what I'm doing is improving myself and having fun. I know it's hard to just push those feeling aside, but you need to tell youself that you are young and life has so much to offer. if she sees that you are doing good and improving then maybe she will realize what she is missing out on. but don't get you hopes up too high on getting back with her, just try to remain friends with her.
and remember to take care of youself and have fun.

Hey!

Well firstly I'm sorry things didn't work out for you.
The thing is you may feel that you were over her to begin with but sometimes it takes longer than you expect and supressed feelings emerge that you haven't realised you still have. Don't expect a quick fix - by the sounds of things your relationship was pretty serious so it will take time for you to get over her maybe even a year.
The fact that she has met someone else and hasn't text you that often suggests she's moved on quicker than you so try not to hold onto the fact you may get back together.

Have you tried writing down how your feeling because if your bottling it all up it may be preventing you sleeping because you have thoughts on your mind you haven't released.

Hope this gives you some help, and in the future I'm sure things will work out for you .

I do know how you feel. I'm in a similar situation. After almost 3 months, I still dream about him and think about him ALL day. The worst part, is that we work together, so I cry at work at he sees it. It's very hard to love someone and want them back, yet the other person doesn't believe it can work.
First off, do you know how she feels about you? Does she still love you? If you don't KNOW, what do you in your heart BELIEVE?
Unfortunately, the fact that she is seeing someone else doesn't leave you with options at the moment. You HAVE to let that take it's course. Interfering will only hurt your chances more. Odds are she isn't in love with him since you two haven't even been broken up for long. That can mean either she is using him for a rebound to hide her pain, or she just moved on. If he's a rebound, it will never work in the end and she may come back to you. If she DID move on, then she didn't love you. *I* know, I couldn't even IMAGINE being with another person right now. The only way I WOULD is if I wanted to play the jealousy game or cover my pain. But I don't, so I am fighting for him.but just because SHE is with someone doesn't mean she loves him or even has feelings for him.
I HATE when people tell me this and I know when I say it to you, you're gonna roll your eyes and tell me to shut up. But, I'm going to say it because it IS true, no matter how much we hate to hear it. If you love her, let her go, if she comes back.you know the rest.
You have to believe that. In the meantime, if you're not ready to date, then don't. Focus on school and maybe working on things that were wrong in your relationship so if you do end up back together, it's not the same problems. And if you don't, well, you won't have them in the next relationship.
Obviously if she text messages you to see how you are doing, then she still thinks about you. So take that as a good sign.
You're not crazy to still be hurting. I know it hasn't been as long for me with my break-up, but I feel as though I get WORSE as time goes on. So, you're not odd. People heal at their own pace. And maybe you're not supposed to heal. Maybe she IS your soul mate and you're going to hurt until she is back with you. Either way, I wish you the best. I hope that if she's NOT the right one that your pain goes away soon. I know how it feels and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy (well, maybe . HEHE) Good luck!

i feel ur pain bro, I know you asked for girls to answer this.
to say that you 2 broken up abt may and been together for 3.5 years, I think its pretty normal that you still hurts.and hving her telling you that she's with someone else, that's just evil.
i guess when ur out trying to get with other girls, it reminds you the habit of hving ur girlfriend next to you instead. maybe try to hang out with ur mates and get away from girls a bit, when you see attractive girls dnt think that ull hit that, just think theyre fit and leave it as that. just get away from girls and spend time with ur mates and talk abt something else rather than ur ex, ull probably heard everything abt it. but sometimes it helps to read abt books that tells you the reality of dating, I know it sounds weird but it helped for me, I was hurt but just I read the book, I was done.
hope you get better