Well as you have seen in previous questions, I have been through a break up, make up, whirlwind of crap with my ex boyfriend. When I called it quits the last time I started to date a female. So the whole lesbian experience was not for me. So when that was done, I started to miss my ex again.
We slept together again and all the feelings started flooding back. Let me remind you that he is abusive mentally and physically. Example: he called me today and I didn't answer so he texts me and asks what's going on and I told him that I was busy at work and he says "yea, busy giving parking lot head" wow! Totally inappropriate.
Well he is playing the whole "I really mean it this time, I'm gonna change" Well I found out that the whole time he was trying to "change" he was sleeping with the same girl that he was sleeping with the last time we took a break. So now I am finally done.
I have just been really stressed out because he helps financially. I am a single parent with 2 kids and working full time to put food on the table. I am also going back to school in January. I guess what I am trying to say is, I want to get over him and realize for myself that I can do better and that there is more out there.
And I already know that time heals all wounds and to keep myself busy, but that's not working so good for me. He keeps calling and texting me and telling me he loves me and wants to be with me. I'm not gonna lie, it is very hard to not buy back into the cycle.
My question is this. How do I get over this man and erase him from my life without excluding him as a father for my children?
He has a right to a relationship with this kids, not with you. If it's not logistical when/where/how talk about being with his kids, you can hang up/ignore the contact. Period.
P.S.: Any subsequent trying to date you will expect this.
you owe it to your kids and yourslef not to have this guy a part of your life. why would you want them grow up around someone like that. just don't text back.the more you do the more attached ur gunna keep getting. DISTANCE YOURSELF. is he even the father of your kids? if he's not then you really should kick him to the curb. if he is then have him help out financially but end it there. really because guys like him won't change easily. so right now focus on your and your kids futures.
Think about YOU First. if you don't think about yourself, your not going to be a good mother to your child. Now I suggest you find another man. to date. so that you can get your mind off of this one. That's what I did. and managed to get over a man that I had been love sick over for two years.
I guess you can't really erase him from your life when you have kids together. You'll just need to give yourself time to get over him. If your having a hard time doing that alone, maybe you could get someone to hold you accoutable.like a close girlfriend? Before I met my husband I had problems going back to an ex over and over, and kept promising myself I wouldn't but when the time came I couldn't. My finally told my best friend that I needed her help. I didn't want to go back, yet I did so I needed someone to hold me accountable. It worked, and I'm so glad it did because now I have my husband, someone who finally treats me probably better than I deserve.
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