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(Age:18 to 24) When: More than a year ago

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I've been with this guy for 2 1/2 years and we recently broke up a month ago. We've broken up before because there was tension between him and his friends and he didn't like that so he broke up with me though he said it was because we were too different. 3 months later I took him back and thing started going good again. However we've both been dealing with our own personal issues and taking it out on each other and our feelings for each ther started to fade. However I still loved him and wanted to work through it but he said the spark was gone and he didn't want to try and work things out anymore. I still miss him and think he was a great guy, I want to use this time I have away from him to work things out with myself personally, but still want to be with him again but I don't want him to always run when things get bad. Is it possible he can come back?Not to mention we were both in our first relationship.


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melissarose8585 When: More than a year ago

If he doesn't want to try, and he said so.then count it as over. To make a relationship work, it takes both of you trying to make it work. That's true for anyone, any relationship. Even if you've been together ten years, you have to work at it. Otherwise, it all falls apart.

It also sounds like he has a pattern of running from anything he can't handle, or running when he gets stressed. That behavior is not likely to change, and if you did get back together, you can almost bet that he would run again at some point. Is that something you want to deal with every time there is a problem? I doubt it, and believe me, life is just getting to the hard part. All the difficult stuff still lies ahead of you.

I'm sorry though. I know it sucks, and that first serious relationship is hard to get over. But it is also another reason I think you should just move on. If this was the first serious thing for both of you, well, you did some growing, some learning. It will always be important, and it is so hard to leave, but now you know what you want in a relationship, and how you want to deal with the issues you will face in them. Take it as the experience it was, and gear up, because it won't be the last. There will be other guys, other relationships, and hopefully one of them is going to not come with the type of issues you faced this time around.

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quaboo1 When: More than a year ago

If you still love em there is many possiblitys that he is going to come back but then a gain you got to relize his friends aare porlley telling him that he should find another gurl life goes one and incurrageing him to move on and not to be with you and then as we lll you gotta think of that you are going to find some onelse new becuase he is not the only one that is going to make your life happy you gotta love him and let there always be a okace in ur heart for him when he comes back and then as well as you to move on find some one else that is going to make you feel good because in the end he going to be think oh ii miss her and I weant her back and he going to rfinally give you a call and be like tdam man I should of never gave that gurl up man I love her and then if you don't answe he is going to be pissed off and know htaht you ahve moves and not want to talk to you