For example...I just got out of an 8 month relationship. He is 22. I am 19. He comes from a broken family and he taught himself to not get hurt (like to not feel painful emotions). When we broke up he claimed that he cared about me and that I will always be special to him but it was a lot harder for me. I cried so much. He just said that he will miss me. He said he wants me in his life but he wants what's best for me. What I want to know is, do you think that the break up effected him more than he's willing to show? There's no way he doesn't get sad sometimes about losing me, right?
Yes, he is probably ripped to shreds inside, like I am. When I go to school I walk around like nothings wrong but I keep thinking about how horrible it was. He just doesn't want so seem like a pussy. But I've learned crying to a girl doesn't make you a p****.
Just because he's not sobbing about it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. Sometimes it's just better not to dwell in pain. I think even with such an emotional event we may rely more on logic. It's not going to fix anything by letting it ruin our lives, so if we are able to carry on then why not do it?
True. but I guess it just hurt because I believe actions speak louder than words and his actions showed me he didn't care..Even though he said he did. - More than a year ago
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I don't know this guy, so I can't say for sure, but I would guess that it's not fair to say that he doesn't care. Men in general are less emotive, I mean everyone is aware of this, but that doesn't mean we don't have feelings. - More than a year ago
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It may come off cold, but it's generally not that way on the inside. - More than a year ago
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Your right. I guess it has just been hard to deal with losing my first love. it took 2 months to really cut it all off. there's alot more to this story than I put in but at one point in the relationship I had felt like he just used and he admitted that.. - More than a year ago
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Yeah, I mean there are so many factors here. Maybe he came to regret what he did and being with you was just a reminder for him. Maybe he really didn't care. The answer is probably somewhere in the middle of everything. He cared, but not enough. - More than a year ago
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Or you would probably still be together. It sounds like you weren't really prepared for the breakup, or it wasn't entirely mutual, on one side or the other. - More than a year ago
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Well..I definitely know I cared more about him. He pursued me when he hurt me so bad during our relationship. So I know he cares, but I was ready to end it, yet not ready to let go. He was. He told me I was such an amazing girl,and deserved better than him. - More than a year ago
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Then it's probably for the best. It sounds like the real question is how to let go. And that's a tough one to answer. The only sure thing is time. And maybe focus on other parts of your life, and on yourself rather than relationships, for a bit. - More than a year ago
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And that's exactly where I'm at..I've never been the type to have problems letting go. It's just that we went threw so much it was hard to imagine him not n my life. But thanks for your comments. Confirmed what I thought, and i'll be just fine... - More than a year ago
It really all depends on how he really felt about you I mean there is a good chance you cross his mind from time to time yet some guys as do girls have up such a gaurded wall around their emotions that they could not feel for you like you do for them that has nothing to do with you but like you said how he was raised guys do hide how hurt they are though even if it is mutual this is because they do not want to hurt their ego and they tend to be huge on pride and showing you hurt could hurt his pride as a man and make him feel like a punk 8 months is a good amount of time and you made some type of impact or it would not have been that long so you put that together I'm sure he thinks about you he just won't tell you that it is just a guy thing!
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When: More than a year ago
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