I have been friends with this guy for 3 years. We started dating in March. From late June through early September we were on and off. We were apart for 10 weeks. In late October, he calls me. We end up talking and the last thing he says it that he wants to be with me. About a week later, he calls again, wanting to be friends with benefits b/c that's all he can handle at the moment. After a week of this, where we were only together once, he texted me, wanting to get back together. I accepted. He told me loved me, numerous times. Yesterday, we see each other and he says that it scared him that someone could love him as much as I do and that he is afraid of commitment. We ended up breaking up but he said that he wanted to remain friends and that he missed how we used to be. I am completely dumbfounded. We were happy, very happy. I want him back. I love him, without doubt, but don't know what to do. He has always been the one to initiate the break up and getting back together . Any advice?
Update: He was diagnosed when he was around 12. He has been on medication, lithium (recently switched from generic to "real" lithium). End of Aug. he stopped taking them (forgot) and got back on them a few weeks ago. Dr. said he was close to hospitalization.
9 months ago
My boyfriend of five years recently left me during a manic episode (which was how he got diagnosed as bipolar). It's been a few months, and now, I am no longer in love with him, because basically the man who I loved no longer exists. The disease changed him so much, and he hurt me in a way I never thought possible. My advice is this:FORGET HIM.
Harsh, but true. This disease is something that will be a part of both of your lives forever, and many, many times you will find yourself hurt and confused, and feeling like YOU'RE the crazy one. I have a lot of experience with this, as my father was also bipolar, and it is a life that is much more complicated and filled with heartache than necessary. Good luck.
See that, girl, it is definitely out of your hands its hard to handle a bipolar for the simple fact they change their minds every second and feel different emotions all the time it really is not their fault all they can do is try to deal maybe you could see if he will open up to you be a good listener give him someone to open up too no questions asked and don't hold it against him just let him express to you how he is feeling at those confusing times and help him get it out.
Do you know for sure if he is bipolar? If he for real then check to see if you do not know already if he is on medication. If not then this is typical behavior for a bipolar.... I'm sure he does love you and care about you but this behavior is beyond his control. He probably doesn't want to be going through all that or putting you through all that yet he can not help it himself. It's very very hard to be with a bipolar even on medication and receiving treatment but one without that it is impossible! Believe me, It is not you! You are not triggering it or doing anything wrong from what it sounds... you can bend over backwards and be miss perfect and it won't change a thing. He needs to get help so he can be stable if you love and care that much and are willing to deal then stick by him and look into that your relationship will blow your mind once he gets his mind right. Don't be mad at him tho or blame him or yourself this is really out of both your hands until he gets treated. good luck girl!
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I think on my feet a lot and say what fits the time. A good way to start might be "Hey what's up? How are you doing?" I try and keep it on my side of the 50 yd line so I can attack and play offense a little more.
How do they typically respond?
Depends on the girl... Some think it's fine and others think I should be shot for it lmao but it just depends on the girl and what kind of personality they are into.
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